Is it normal to have Second thoughts?

The question was:

I have been planning my first Camino (Frances) this summer, but just recently am having second thoughts and thinking maybe I need some encouragement. It’s not any one thing, but several recent factors, including physical ability and finances.

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18 comments on “Is it normal to have Second thoughts?
  1. Marcella Baglione says:

    shortly before i left for the camino, i had anxiety attacks and couldn’t sleep. what was i thinking? i can’t do this! i’ll get lost. i’ll run out of money. i don’t even exercise! wahhh!!!

    it was THE BEST experience of my life. go. it’s supposed to be a little scary. all the best things in life are =)

    • everyone seems to always say it’s the best experience of their life and hearing that keeps me motivated .. planning to walk next April and I can’t wait ♥

      • Regina Saunders says:

        Enjoy the planning stage, before the anxiety fronts up closer to departure. I am going in 16 days and haven’t slept properly for the past week. But I know,that Grace has brought me safe thus far, and Grace will bring me home.

  2. michaelwalker says:

    Absolutely, I found on my first and now my second upcoming Camino the tendency to avoid creeps in. Just ride through it and keep planning and getting things ready because by the time you are going there you will be excited and just oozing with anticipation. When you are on the way you are so focussed on getting to the next beautiful village and meeting the amazing people and thinking about the history of it all that you will be totally over this transitory fear.

  3. Marie says:

    In my experience the best things are those that follow intense fear. Like they say feel it and do it anyway.

    You’ll never have enough money or be fit enough and then after you’ve procrastinated for a few years – you’ll maybe think you’re too old – just do it!!

  4. Debbie says:

    Im feeling all the above as well. I am new to the Camino and start early June.
    John Brierley has this poem written by William Ward in his guide book and It always inspires me…. perhaps it will do the same for others.

    To laugh is to risk appearing the fool
    To weep is to risk being called sentimental
    To reach out to another is to risk involvement
    To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self
    To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss
    To love is to risk not being loved in return
    To live is to risk dying
    To try is to risk failure.
    But risks must be taken
    Because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
    The people who risk nothing may avoid suffering and sorrow,
    But they cannot learn, feel, change, grow or really live.
    Chained by their servitude they are slaves who have forfeited all freedom.
    Only a person who risks is truly free.

    Most of JBs personal waffling annoys me but I love this poem.

    • Marcella Baglione says:

      I have that same book. Most of his “wafflings” also irritated me and were a source of amusement for my Camino friends and me. But then once I reached Santiago I didn’t feel so much like poking fun at him anymore. As overly sentimental as he can be, that book is excellent, and he has a lot of wonderful advice and perspective to offer.

  5. Mike Miller says:

    Tuesday: 04/05/2011

    Second Thoughts!! Absolutely! Yes we all had 2nd thoughts! 2nd Thoughts & doubts are part of the baggage you leave behind with your first step on the Camino.

    Physical ability?? You can do it. The Camino is walked “One Step at a Time”! My first Camino was at age 62 – few if any physical problems. Pace yourself – You will get to Santiago!! I had a few tough days but when I arrived in Santiago I was ready to Take a bus back to St. Pied and start over again. {wish I had}.

    Finances – To much worry goes in to Finances – My “On the Ground” budget was 1 Euro per Kilometer or about 720 Euro. I walked into Santiago with 1 Euro to spare. OK! OK! I’m frugel to a fault – I’m so tight with $$ I squeak when I walk. Don’t be afraid to go broke, it happens! you won’t die from it. Leave this fear behind you.

    Go for it!! Be a Camino Nomad for a month or so. Enjoy your Camino!

  6. W.J.N. says:

    “Is it normal to have second thoughts?”
    Fortunately the right answer to this question is : “Yes, but do the Camino anyway!”
    Do your own Camino. Walk your own speed and distance. There are plenty of possibilities to stop on the way. The Camino is not a competition or a race!!!!
    On your way you may also feel this regret, but do not let it stop you from continuing. Remember to have your days of rest, and this may be the right time for it. Take a day off just to enjoy the local area, before you continue.

    Maybe you will regret going, but I doubt it. If however, you do not go, you are sure to regret it for the rest of your life.
    Also remember the saying that did comfort many of us:”No pain,no gain!”

    Boen Camino!

  7. kathleen pieszchala says:

    I’m leaving May 16th and every day I have 2nd and 3rd and 4th thoughts…glad to hear it’s normal.

  8. Kpieszchala says:

    Having now walked the Camino St Jean to Santiago,  I look back and had no reason to have had any second thoughts.  Live your dream.  Enjoy.

  9. KODK says:

    Definitely, just do it. You’ll LOVE it. I’ve done from Sarria to Santiago and loved every minute it. Go for it, you won’t regret it :)

  10. Ah- good to see my old blog in action again! Wish I could do it all over again, I need the experience at this time of my life again…

  11. Littleanne says:

    I have these feeelings EVERYtime I go outside my comfort zone! :) BUT outside comfort zone is where real Life and Growth are. Last year went to Cambodia and have travelled several times alone in Europe. Camino in Sept/oct this year- starting my preps now :) . Dont live in your comfort zone- it turns you into a zombie :) hahaha

  12. Jacqui says:

    Definitely, go. You wouldn’t be normal if you weren’t having doubts. Expect it to be more gruelling than a walk in the park, but you will learn so much about yourself. We (little old me together with my husband) are scheduled to ride from the UK down to Spain (using a Ferry to cross the Channel first) then ride the Camino later this year. I am sooo looking forward to it, but we just might have to reschedule as my husband has a bit of a health scare than might put paid to our plans. As he’s 72, we don’t want to take any chances.

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