Sorry to hear that you are leaving.
Forums are fickle places at times.
Full of a broad cross section of people, many with quite strong views and opinions that they like to share now and again!
I remember many years ago when venturing onto a Forum, being given the advice that it was rather like wandering into the local village pub in the UK.
Those not from the UK will be unfamiliar with the concept.
But maybe think of the bar in Cheers, where "everyone knows your name" as the theme song goes. But on steroids. Everyone really knows everyone.
Most of the active members know each other here, and have shared many conversations over the years.
Many will know of the personal trials and tribulations that certain members of the community have gone through. The relationship break-ups, the major health issues, the bereavements. The personal demons they have struggled with. It's that kind of community. Very caring, once you get to know them.
Having been a member of various forums over the years, that covered a range of topics, and having even run my own for 10 years (business related), I have to say I find this one unique.
It really is a 'community'. And sure, like any community or family, there are a few oddballs, the ones who speak without thinking sometimes, the ones who speak more than 'listen'. And the ones who speak very rarely, but when they do, share something quite profound. We know who they are, but they are family.
It's a real melting pot here. And @ivar
and the moderators do a great job keeping the 'kids' under control most of the time.
Sometimes there is an argument here and there, some harsh words, maybe some thoughtless words.
And sometimes the first reaction is to leave the Forum, because it somehow feels hostile, or we don't feel heard.
I have done that myself.........
But I calmed down, and came back. Because if there is one thing the Camino has taught me, it's to be more tolerant of others and not to judge too harshly. And Yes, you may feel you were judged quickly and treated harshly.
Coming back to the Cheers analogy, when we find this great community, we might jump in a bit too quick. Sometimes in our enthusiasm to share, or suggest things, particularly new things that look obvious to 'us', we might tread on the toes of those who have been coming to this bar for 20 years or more. We might tread on their beliefs, values and views of how things are or should be. Often a shared view, because maybe that's what drew them to this bar in the first place. They felt at home, and safe.
So in a new city, in a new bar, it can make sense to spend a while 'lurking' and 'watching'. Getting a sense of the vibe, and how the community 'thinks' and who are the ones with the strong opinions, or wrong opinions! That way we can 'ease' into the community, and start to become part of it, and then.........start suggesting new ideas and ways of doing things.
I'm sorry that your initial experience was not good