Before I departed on my first Camino...I was up to my eyeballs in "stuff". Stuff that I agreed to do, because another didn't step forward. Stuff that had accumulated in a very broken relationship...I was determined to fix. Stuff I hadn't seen or used in more than one year. And, stuff I put in my own way that would preclude walking the Way again.
I figured that much of what I agreed to do...was during my FREE Time. So, I looked over the "stuff" and found others had picked them up in my absence. I congratulated them on their fine work and moved on planning my next Camino during my free time. The relationship was dragging me down, forcing a wedge between me and my family. So, I sat down, found more negatives than positives and realized you can't help someone that can't help themselves. Aside from a picture of me when I broke my arm, most of the stuff I had accumulated was just so much stuff. I picked up an item...put it in the trash, another item...into the trash. Pretty soon...the only stuff I retained was the "Camino stuff" I needed for my second Camino. Oh, btw, when I said "into the trash" I meant given to a consignment shop, a thrift store or put on Craig's List. The result: I paid for nearly all my Camino with the cash or tax breaks received.
My point is: If you go on Camino looking for something...you just may find it. If you return home and go back to the same old, same old looking for a change in others...you may forget the change in you and become disappointed.