+@^^
Active Member
when i first joined the aa as an active alcoholic
my sponsor asked what my reasons were for wanting to clean up my act
and i trotted out the usual reasons family kids wife job friends blah blah
he says
this is the most selfish 12 step programme in the world
you doing it only for yourself - eveything else is a bonus
.
thats the way i see the camino
its your pilgrimage
not your partners
not the kids
not the charity back home
.
thats not to say you can be dismissive of them
it just means
that if youre doing it for somebody else
its probably going to be disappointing
and at some level youre going to be let down
it can be distracting
and that gives you somebody else to blame when the going gets really tough
.
when this shift happens
it gives you full latitude to help others
with full love
but with total detachment
and no expectations
.
its for good reason
that the airlines instruct you to put the oxygen mask over your mouth first, and then to attend to the needs of others
.
IJS
my sponsor asked what my reasons were for wanting to clean up my act
and i trotted out the usual reasons family kids wife job friends blah blah
he says
this is the most selfish 12 step programme in the world
you doing it only for yourself - eveything else is a bonus
.
thats the way i see the camino
its your pilgrimage
not your partners
not the kids
not the charity back home
.
thats not to say you can be dismissive of them
it just means
that if youre doing it for somebody else
its probably going to be disappointing
and at some level youre going to be let down
it can be distracting
and that gives you somebody else to blame when the going gets really tough
.
when this shift happens
it gives you full latitude to help others
with full love
but with total detachment
and no expectations
.
its for good reason
that the airlines instruct you to put the oxygen mask over your mouth first, and then to attend to the needs of others
.
IJS