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Being a "both/and" rather than an "either/or" type myself, I can suggest combining some alone time as well as partnered time for your journey. Maybe the first half (2-3 weeks) alone, then meeting up mid-way to continue together?My goal of walking in 2015 has given me something positive to focus on...it's been quite therapeutic already!
My question is this...
With so much uncertainty would it be a recipe for disaster for us to even consider going
Your story has just described the best reason to walk the Camino. For one the Camino will give you the answers you are seeking or lead to a resolution. Just pick up your shoes and go.I have a question that I have searched high and low for words of wisdom from anyone that has taken this journey under similar circumstances. I have not found any. So....(sorry, here comes the necessary background knowledge.)
This past year I have nearly lost my son to heroin addiction. He is currently clean, and God willing will stay that way! Then, this summer I lost my mother, my hero, to cancer. I have been separated for the past two years from my husband of ten years, although it has remained an on-again-off-again relationship. We live apart, and have many 'issues' that may or may not be able to be worked out. However, during the later stages of my mothers illness, my husband truly stepped up and was my rock...on again...
One of the things that had been our greatest common denominator was our love of the outdoors and simply experiencing life in all it's many assets...walking the Camino being one of many of our 'bucket list' items.
As I am sure is the case with many people with so many life changing experiences going on, I have recently put this on the short term 'to do' list, I need to get away from life, back to basics, and figure out what is going on in my head and my life. I'm hoping for May/June of 2015.
My question is this...
With so much uncertainty would it be a recipe for disaster for us to even consider going together? I would love to think this could be a perfect marriage encounter, (we are very much in love, we just have so much 'history'). But, on the flip side, needing peace of mind more than anything else, I can't help but to wonder if it is better for me to go 'alone'?! Any advice on "What the Camino Can and Can't Do for a Marriage" ?
Hello Tammi, my wife and me walked the camino twice on both occasions we did more or less what amorfati1 suggests above. On the first occasion we both walked open minded without expectation and learned about ourselves. On the second occasion, again open minded without any expectation we learned about our lives together and just how much we valued each other.You can begin the day together and meet up in the afternoon again if you are not on the same wavelength - and are walking together in that way without being glued together at the hips.
You both love the outdoors -- and there's plenty of outdoors on the camino's ...
it might awaken other shared values as well ... history or no history ... best wishes for preparing and planing the camino. it is really a powerful intent and focus to have !
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