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Hi there! I'm currently on the camino but as a 19 year old queer vegan who's on a bit of a tighter budget so not really as able to join in with bars/dinners out, I'm really struggling to connect with others who are also walking the camino. I've been feeling really worn down and the lack of connection is taking a toll on my mental health, especially seeing so many others who have made good friends. It's a shame because I am really enjoying the walk itself and the scenery, I'm just finding the long afternoons and evenings alone hard. I was wondering if there's anyone else who is currently walking who's of a similar age/circumstance who wanted to be friends? Or if anyone has any tips!
Thanks!
Understandable!I'm just finding the long afternoons and evenings alone hard.
Others have given you good tips above my post.Hi there! I'm currently on the camino but as a 19 year old queer vegan who's on a bit of a tighter budget so not really as able to join in with bars/dinners out, I'm really struggling to connect with others who are also walking the camino. I've been feeling really worn down and the lack of connection is taking a toll on my mental health, especially seeing so many others who have made good friends. It's a shame because I am really enjoying the walk itself and the scenery, I'm just finding the long afternoons and evenings alone hard. I was wondering if there's anyone else who is currently walking who's of a similar age/circumstance who wanted to be friends? Or if anyone has any tips!
Thanks!
Perhaps you could change over to a less crowded Camino. The big crowds on the Camino Frances don't paradoxical necessarily make contact easier. You see a lot of people but in the evening people spread out over the many albergues and restaurants. Everyday you see new faces. The crowds are like "loose sand" with can make it hard if you're walking alone. On other caminos like the Sanabres/Primitivo or Salvador there are enough pilgrims you can have contact with but they don't spread out that much. You can expect to see many of them in the albergue. The fact that you are vegan could be a complicating factor, I imagine that there are more possibilities on the Frances, but I am not sure of thatHi there! I'm currently on the camino but as a 19 year old queer vegan who's on a bit of a tighter budget so not really as able to join in with bars/dinners out, I'm really struggling to connect with others who are also walking the camino. I've been feeling really worn down and the lack of connection is taking a toll on my mental health, especially seeing so many others who have made good friends. It's a shame because I am really enjoying the walk itself and the scenery, I'm just finding the long afternoons and evenings alone hard. I was wondering if there's anyone else who is currently walking who's of a similar age/circumstance who wanted to be friends? Or if anyone has any tips!
Thanks!
I remember feeling exactly as the OP describes, in Ourense. I went out and brought back a bottle of wine. "Would anyone like a glass of vino tinto?" I was immediately joined by Japanese gentleman who spoke good English and was hilarious company. We met again by chance at Madrid airport, both waiting to fly home. We greeted each other like long-lost brothers.... " think out of the box ".You never know what that quiet 70 plus grumpy male pilgrim has to offer you in terms of conversation. Or that bubbly 40 plus lady?
Where are you now?! We just made it to Estella a little while ago and if you’re nearby, we’d love to have you walk with us!Hi there! I'm currently on the camino but as a 19 year old queer vegan who's on a bit of a tighter budget so not really as able to join in with bars/dinners out, I'm really struggling to connect with others who are also walking the camino. I've been feeling really worn down and the lack of connection is taking a toll on my mental health, especially seeing so many others who have made good friends. It's a shame because I am really enjoying the walk itself and the scenery, I'm just finding the long afternoons and evenings alone hard. I was wondering if there's anyone else who is currently walking who's of a similar age/circumstance who wanted to be friends? Or if anyone has any tips!
Thanks!
Hi. I sincerely wish you the best with your circumstances. One suggestion I have is to stay only at municipal albergeus and buy your breakfast and lunches at supermercados. This may help to free up some money for a drink or meal in the evenings. Be honest ie. that u are on a budget. As you are vegan ordering salads will not only be cheap but save you having to explain yourself each night. Hopefully the current trend will change and you start to hook up with some folks. Personally I'm incredibly outgoing and would have no problem approaching pilgrims in the albergues and suggesting communal eating etc which is always a fraction of the cost. Best of luck in the coming days and stay in touch to let us know how you are. Yours sincerely DanielHi there! I'm currently on the camino but as a 19 year old queer vegan who's on a bit of a tighter budget so not really as able to join in with bars/dinners out, I'm really struggling to connect with others who are also walking the camino. I've been feeling really worn down and the lack of connection is taking a toll on my mental health, especially seeing so many others who have made good friends. It's a shame because I am really enjoying the walk itself and the scenery, I'm just finding the long afternoons and evenings alone hard. I was wondering if there's anyone else who is currently walking who's of a similar age/circumstance who wanted to be friends? Or if anyone has any tips!
Thanks!
There's been some very good kind responses here and VNwalking put it best but to be frank, speaking as someone who has done both of my caminos as a "vegan", no one cares what you eat and what labels you assign yourself in this PC culture, be kinder to yourself and do as others have suggested, find common ground and unity. God's speed!Hi there! I'm currently on the camino but as a 19 year old queer vegan who's on a bit of a tighter budget so not really as able to join in with bars/dinners out, I'm really struggling to connect with others who are also walking the camino. I've been feeling really worn down and the lack of connection is taking a toll on my mental health, especially seeing so many others who have made good friends. It's a shame because I am really enjoying the walk itself and the scenery, I'm just finding the long afternoons and evenings alone hard. I was wondering if there's anyone else who is currently walking who's of a similar age/circumstance who wanted to be friends? Or if anyone has any tips!
Thanks!
As an older walker (73), I’ve found I have to start most conversations with others but their age is not a deterrent. Sitting alone at a table next to a group (a walking group vs. a coach group), I’ve found there is usually a chance to jump in as most conversations are about Camino or life as we all experience/suffer it. You’ll know right off if they are insular or open and almost always they are open. If not, they will usually remember you and may initiate a conversation later. All that said, I also like the solitude of Camino and often just listen. Even then I find someone will notice and draw me in.Hi there! I'm currently on the camino but as a 19 year old queer vegan who's on a bit of a tighter budget so not really as able to join in with bars/dinners out, I'm really struggling to connect with others who are also walking the camino. I've been feeling really worn down and the lack of connection is taking a toll on my mental health, especially seeing so many others who have made good friends. It's a shame because I am really enjoying the walk itself and the scenery, I'm just finding the long afternoons and evenings alone hard. I was wondering if there's anyone else who is currently walking who's of a similar age/circumstance who wanted to be friends? Or if anyone has any tips!
Thanks!
Unless I missed something, post 13 tells us that the OP has come to the conclusion that the 100km is fine for now...or am I misreading...
Well I'm fairness when I opened it earlier it began with the original post to which I made a reply. The first instinct was to be helpful and unfortunately I did not notice that the thread was from yesterday. OopsI agree @SabineP that reading a thread beginning to end is best, but sometimes when it has oodles and oodles of posts before I happen to notice its existence, I can be guilty of skimming through and don't have the full picture and have missed important information. I am sometimes impulsive; not a good thing much of the time as my responsive post can be "old news".
It’s all useful info for others in a similar position!Well I'm fairness when I opened it earlier it began with the original post to which I made a reply. The first instinct was to be helpful and unfortunately I did not notice that the thread was from yesterday. Oops
My tip is to forget for this purpose (the Camino) that you're a 19-year-old queer vegan and to think of yourself in these days simply as a peregrino, one of the community of peregrinos out there with whom you share so much else aside from whatever may be differences of age, sexuality, and/or food preference. I walked from St. Jean to Santiago last September, and I met such wonderful people of all types and descriptions because we made our commonalities the basis of our relationships. This might be a helpful focus for you too. Believe me, there's a world of connection waiting for you along those many miles.Hi there! I'm currently on the camino but as a 19 year old queer vegan who's on a bit of a tighter budget so not really as able to join in with bars/dinners out, I'm really struggling to connect with others who are also walking the camino. I've been feeling really worn down and the lack of connection is taking a toll on my mental health, especially seeing so many others who have made good friends. It's a shame because I am really enjoying the walk itself and the scenery, I'm just finding the long afternoons and evenings alone hard. I was wondering if there's anyone else who is currently walking who's of a similar age/circumstance who wanted to be friends? Or if anyone has any tips!
Thanks!
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