caminoforme86
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- Camino Frances October 2013 - December 2013
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mad galway man said:Alone, alone, alone
soopi25 said:Definitely alone!
I came to the Camino as a solo female but, as everyone will say, met a ton of wonderful people almost immediately. Among them several couples who tended to take meals and walk on their own than with the larger Camino family that does inevitably form. While they were all in sync and definitely enjoying their Camino, it was a different experience for them because they had to consider and plan for the needs/wants of two people rather than one (Where/what do you want to eat? It's late in the day, will the albergue have 2 beds available for us? I want to walk faster, but my partner needs to walk slower, etcetc). Not that this means it won't be enjoyable... just more factors that may stop you from really being able to let go and living in the moment.
I also met A LOT of people walking without their husbands, wives, boyfriends, or girlfriends. Some started with their partners, others were meeting them in Santiago. So if you're feeling bad or weird about having this experience just for yourself - don't!
The Camino is the best thing that I have ever done and I have never had a prouder moment than when I walked into Santiago and saw that cathedral in the morning light.
Buen Camino to you!! You will not regret it, no matter what!!!
Bundgaard said:I started in St. Jean with my girlfriend and we're currently 130km from Santiago. We're 23 and 24. I guess people who preach solitude are mainly people who have tried just that. I'm used to hiking. Either alone or with my mates. She has never been into it, but that's hardly the main issue. Going as couple is without a doubt a different experience than going alone. You might not be as susceptible to making new friends for life, or to joining a group of interesting people. You do however get to know your partner and the relationship that you have with him/her. This would be the main point of going together as I see it, and I guess that most people overlook this giant perk of going together. You do not lose the ability to live in the moment just because you're two. In the months you're going finding a place to stay won't be a problem at all. Also people speak of the challenge of going alone. What could be more challenging and rewarding, personally and for the relationship, than to take on your own issues whilst having to support and take care of your loved one at the same time!? Every journey is unique however, and there's no telling where yours wink take you. According to that I won't say that going as a couple is generally better than going alone. I will, however, say that going alone isn't generally better than going as a couple. Ask yourself what you want from the experience, cause the walking and the scenery are secondary purposes.
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Louise2013 said:Hi
Boyfriend or alone um........follow your gut instinct! There is no right or wrong answer just different lessons to be learnt along the way
However on getting to SJPP from Scotland, £300 seems a bit expensive..... I am starting in about a month and I appreciate flights are involved but I found my cheapest way was
Glasgow to London Stanstead - easyjet
London Stansted - Biarrtiz - ryanair
website http://www.skyscanner.com is a good way of checking flight prices dates etc especially if you are flexible. Just make sure you build yourself a bit of time inbetween connections.
Travel around scotland use Scottishcitylink website. If you book travel in advance you can get tickets for £1 - wonderful savings eg another trip Glasgow to Perth to Glasgow to Skye to Glasgow to Perth all for £17.00
Biarrtz to SJPP depending on what time you get in I believe there are trains..more info on another thread somewhere.
Hope this helps and brings your costs down. Have fun.
Louise
This made me smile lolmad galway man said:Alone, alone, alone
clearskies said:I've always walked alone
Olivares said:....and WHY, OH WHY were you even worried about what was he doing? :roll:
No Idea, I dont remember writing that I was worried what he would be doing. But you are right worrying about the unknown is really stupid isnt it!! Deep rooted worries from previous relationships I guess, its been fun spending all this time together but its not normal! I understand the need to do things for ourself.
I've previously put things on hold, (A trip round Europe when I was 21) cancelled them (application to medical school) and just given up because of relationships. Why.... only I would know but dont!! Its by far my worst trait.....insecure, needy and fearful of what might happen if am not there.....Putting my body through anxiety and stress that is wasted energy.
But this year I've already proved to myself how strong I really am. I have achieved more than I ever thought I could. Left a very good job in the NHS as a nurse that made me unhappy, everyone thougth I was silly to give it up. Set up my own dog walking business, left the comfort of routine and set off into the unknown on my trip.
The camino would...sorry WILL be my biggest challenge yet, (I am not just doing this for a challenge, there is something about it that just feels I have to do this) I am not doing this for anyone else or to prove anything to anyone but myself. Not just to prove that I am capable of just being 'me' its much more than that I am not even sure I can put it into words. Again it just feels right.
You are all right, its calling me.
caminoforme86 said:Hey Say Simba,
Thanks for your input, we decided in the end that I should do my Camino alone. I've no doubt if we decided to do it together we would have quite an amazing experience together.
Interesting to hear that some couples were not together in the end. I am somewhat prepared for some of the issues the Camino will through at me and how I may want to carry on planning future pilgrim journeys.
The plan right now is that he will come and meet me either in Santiago or we will meet in Madrid.
Bundgaard said:I guess people who preach solitude are mainly people who have tried just that.
Helen Burns said:Alone alone yes. Wow your question has stimulated a LOT of response. I desperately wanted/needed to walk the Camino and my partner didn't. I wanted him to come but I also wanted to walk alone - if that makes any sense. In the end he stayed at home. I have never felt so much gratitude for the opportunity to spend thirty days walking with my shadow, into my shadow and out the other side. Literally and metaphorically. And the message I received many times? The real Camino begins at home. Our relationship was challenged on my return - I was no longer half a relationship. I was a whole person in a relationship. Several years later we walked together some of the Way in France ... well I walked and he hitched, took trains and buses in between small spurts of walking. Sometimes we hitched together. It was all over the place and not at all what I anticipated. Nevertheless those weeks had their own kind of charm as well as challenges. Life dishes out in mysterious ways. Life is short too. Alone alone yes, at least for the first time.
Buen Camino
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