psychoticparrot
psychoticparrot
- Time of past OR future Camino
- April, May (2017)
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Oh, I forgot the practical aspects! We tend to start off together but drift apart while walking (he's ahead) and meet up at the next town or village. One of the good things about the camino is that it is a single path so if one person gets ahead there is no problem - just stop at the next bar and the person behind will eventually find you.
I just love the title of this thread!! Are you sure my husband did not put you up to asking this question??All of you gave such great advice to me on my other thread about my husband and I being physically somewhat unfit and relatively old, yet still wanting to walk the Camino next year.
Now I have another issue I'd like some advice about -- is it better to walk the Camino as a couple or alone?
We've been married for 43 years, so we know that we, ahem, sometimes have our differences. One of the things we've learned along the way is the importance of some "alone" time. Even the most devoted of couples need time apart, if for no other reason than to remind us how much we like being together, if that makes any sense. If we walk together on the Camino 24/7, that's an awful lot of togetherness. Disagreements will be inevitable. Even our paces will be different -- my husband is 6 feet tall; I'm 5 feet tall.
So, what do all of you suggest? Should we walk separately at our own paces and meet up at the agreed-upon town/village? Should we try to walk together as much as possible? Should we walk alone to the point of having separate Camino trips altogether?
We both want our first (and perhaps only) Camino to be memorable, but for the right reasons, not because of squabbling and hurt feelings, which, BTW, we're not normally prone to do. But it's a worrisome point, nonetheless.
All of you gave such great advice to me on my other thread about my husband and I being physically somewhat unfit and relatively old, yet still wanting to walk the Camino next year.
Now I have another issue I'd like some advice about -- is it better to walk the Camino as a couple or alone?
We've been married for 43 years, so we know that we, ahem, sometimes have our differences. One of the things we've learned along the way is the importance of some "alone" time. Even the most devoted of couples need time apart, if for no other reason than to remind us how much we like being together, if that makes any sense. If we walk together on the Camino 24/7, that's an awful lot of togetherness. Disagreements will be inevitable. Even our paces will be different -- my husband is 6 feet tall; I'm 5 feet tall.
So, what do all of you suggest? Should we walk separately at our own paces and meet up at the agreed-upon town/village? Should we try to walk together as much as possible? Should we walk alone to the point of having separate Camino trips altogether?
We both want our first (and perhaps only) Camino to be memorable, but for the right reasons, not because of squabbling and hurt feelings, which, BTW, we're not normally prone to do. But it's a worrisome point, nonetheless.
I think your solution is of the "both - and" variety rather than the "either-or" sort. Perhaps you can conceptualize it as you are each walking your separate Caminos, but get together in the evening to share your differing experiences of the day. In a marriage so long, you must have travelled together before, so you know how that works for you. The added issue on a Camino is the difference in your physical temperaments (speed, rest frequency and duration) as well as your distraction temperaments (oh I want to investigate this, oh that's dull and uninteresting). So, after many years where you thought you knew each other completely, there are still discoveries to be made!
I just love the title of this thread!! Are you sure my husband did not put you up to asking this question??
Hi Psychoticparrot,
My partner and I had the same question on our mine before we started the Camino Frances last Sept. I the men walk a little faster then her and we agreed that for the first week that we would stick together and stay in same accmodations. After the first week we had share the same bedroom every night even though we walk at different pace we allways end up meeting each other for coffee, lunch and night stop. Things went so well that we decided to get married on the Punte La Reina after 25 years on common law loving. We share the same accommodation every night (45 nights) and walk along with many common friends that attended our wedding. It was a wonderful experience and we had hardly a disagreement along the way. As long as you both understand that you both need your private moments and time to meet interesting people you will do just fine. We are planning to do another Camino in the upcoming season years. It look like we are just the same age a you guys in our sixties, good Luck and Buen Camino!!!
P.S. By staying together we share rooms in Hosteles with private bath and we did not have to endure the snoring and other body sounds of other. Average price for a price room for two was around 35€ that has made a great positive difference on our Camino
I\All of you gave such great advice to me on my other thread about my husband and I being physically somewhat unfit and relatively old, yet still wanting to walk the Camino next year.
Now I have another issue I'd like some advice about -- is it better to walk the Camino as a couple or alone?
We've been married for 43 years, so we know that we, ahem, sometimes have our differences. One of the things we've learned along the way is the importance of some "alone" time. Even the most devoted of couples need time apart, if for no other reason than to remind us how much we like being together, if that makes any sense. If we walk together on the Camino 24/7, that's an awful lot of togetherness. Disagreements will be inevitable. Even our paces will be different -- my husband is 6 feet tall; I'm 5 feet tall.
So, what do all of you suggest? Should we walk separately at our own paces and meet up at the agreed-upon town/village? Should we try to walk together as much as possible? Should we walk alone to the point of having separate Camino trips altogether?
We both want our first (and perhaps only) Camino to be memorable, but for the right reasons, not because of squabbling and hurt feelings, which, BTW, we're not normally prone to do. But it's a worrisome point, nonetheless.
All of you gave such great advice to me on my other thread about my husband and I being physically somewhat unfit and relatively old, yet still wanting to walk the Camino next year.
Now I have another issue I'd like some advice about -- is it better to walk the Camino as a couple or alone?
We've been married for 43 years, so we know that we, ahem, sometimes have our differences. One of the things we've learned along the way is the importance of some "alone" time. Even the most devoted of couples need time apart, if for no other reason than to remind us how much we like being together, if that makes any sense. If we walk together on the Camino 24/7, that's an awful lot of togetherness. Disagreements will be inevitable. Even our paces will be different -- my husband is 6 feet tall; I'm 5 feet tall.
So, what do all of you suggest? Should we walk separately at our own paces and meet up at the agreed-upon town/village? Should we try to walk together as much as possible? Should we walk alone to the point of having separate Camino trips altogether?
We both want our first (and perhaps only) Camino to be memorable, but for the right reasons, not because of squabbling and hurt feelings, which, BTW, we're not normally prone to do. But it's a worrisome point, nonetheless.
I would give yourself a few days together and see what happens. Possibly you can try walking apart during the day find someone to walk with and thus your evenings you can share and be together just a suggestion.All of you gave such great advice to me on my other thread about my husband and I being physically somewhat unfit and relatively old, yet still wanting to walk the Camino next year.
Now I have another issue I'd like some advice about -- is it better to walk the Camino as a couple or alone?
We've been married for 43 years, so we know that we, ahem, sometimes have our differences. One of the things we've learned along the way is the importance of some "alone" time. Even the most devoted of couples need time apart, if for no other reason than to remind us how much we like being together, if that makes any sense. If we walk together on the Camino 24/7, that's an awful lot of togetherness. Disagreements will be inevitable. Even our paces will be different -- my husband is 6 feet tall; I'm 5 feet tall.
So, what do all of you suggest? Should we walk separately at our own paces and meet up at the agreed-upon town/village? Should we try to walk together as much as possible? Should we walk alone to the point of having separate Camino trips altogether?
We both want our first (and perhaps only) Camino to be memorable, but for the right reasons, not because of squabbling and hurt feelings, which, BTW, we're not normally prone to do. But it's a worrisome point, nonetheless.
We were planning to carry both bags all the way, but had decided that for the first two days we would ship my wife backpack to at least cross the Pyrenees Mountains. After the first week on the Camino we decided to ship one bag every day with all the heavy stuff and I carried the other one. My wife bought a day bag and she carried her own daily need. This was a ver y good decision and it did help us a lot. However we needed to have a shipping address and we had to make previous arrangements for nightly accommodation. We bought a SIM card from Vodaphone for 20€ and had communication to do our reservation. All these changes in our plan made our trip much easier. We did not had to leave very early in the morning as we knew where we were staying every night. They don't require a credit card when we book and they will keep the room for you until 4/5 pm. If we did not like the accommodation we simply pick up our bag and find a better place, only happen twice. Our bag were at the proper location every night when we arrived, no matter which company we selected, even the cheaper one. As we get closer to Santiago the price change from 7 € in SJPP to 3€ at then end of the trip. Make you to call the company you selected the night before 8:00pm to let them know you have a pickup at a certain location with the drop off location. Buen CaminoCongratulations on your recent marriage! You and your husband seem almost like our clones. We also plan to stay in private accommodations, with alburgues as backups in case of reservation snafus. We have decided, however, to carry our own packs instead of having them transported, which was my first thought when starting to plan the trip. We can be more flexible about where and when we stay. This should also help ease any tensions.
I understand goodness, width, beauty ..... of this statement. But I discovered that the Camino is one of the rare occasions where I ask myself - what I want and think. Life is full of adjustment, Camino is MY time.What does your husband think? That's bound to be more important than what we think! (although I do understand discovering different perspectives can be beneficial)
Who knows, you may find you LOVE to spend 24 hours a day together (that's one of my pet faves of the camino)
Because I love himWhy do you even have a walking partner to start with?
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