soozansings
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- Time of past OR future Camino
- June 2nd (2016)
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Also, did you know that there's an 'ignore' function on this forum? If you find that some people's posts create a negative energy for you, you can simply choose not to see them. Just click 'ignore' when you look at their profile.
In my oppinion everything is said by the pilgrims in this tread. And yes the ignore button works great for some.It's been mostly lovely. Thanks to most of you for your kindness and understanding as I take the first steps of my first time out of the US to walk the Camino. If I've offended you by my aggravation at intolerance by those who have "been there, done that" and feel that snide remarks make the Camino a better place for us "newbies", then I offer my most sincere apologies. Sorry, Ivar. I didn't expect to be admonished for calling out a forum member who is always explicitly rude to folks with honest concerns . Blessings and buen camino to you all.
It's been mostly lovely. Thanks to most of you for your kindness and understanding as I take the first steps of my first time out of the US to walk the Camino. If I've offended you by my aggravation at intolerance by those who have "been there, done that" and feel that snide remarks make the Camino a better place for us "newbies", then I offer my most sincere apologies. Sorry, Ivar. I didn't expect to be admonished for calling out a forum member who is always explicitly rude to folks with honest concerns . Blessings and buen camino to you all.
It's been mostly lovely. Thanks to most of you for your kindness and understanding as I take the first steps of my first time out of the US to walk the Camino. If I've offended you by my aggravation at intolerance by those who have "been there, done that" and feel that snide remarks make the Camino a better place for us "newbies", then I offer my most sincere apologies. Sorry, Ivar. I didn't expect to be admonished for calling out a forum member who is always explicitly rude to folks with honest concerns . Blessings and buen camino to you all.
Never noticed anyone being rude or grumpy. I've found comments very helpful.
It has been my experience on the forum, that there are many people all with different opinions, experiences, and ideas. I believe that it is ok to express or call out the behavior without fingering one individual.
There are more people on the forum that are nice than people that are
Rude. Opinions can either be used or ignored.
Someone that is continuiosly rude is recognized and usually ignored. An honest concern can be addressed in a general manner.
Please give the forum another try and stay with us. We are not all rude. Buen Camino on your journey of a life time.
(couldn't find a chuckle-chuckle emocotion - otherwise i'd post thatI have found it interesting to look at the ratio of "likes" to number of posts that individuals have on this forum. Some people have posted thousands and thousands of times and yet only have several hundred "likes". Most people have a ratio of 1 or 2 "likes" to each post. I'd like to think I'm doing something right because my ratio of "likes" to posts is 5 to 1. Yet, some people choose to attack me. I just take solace in the fact that apparently most people think I have something useful to say on here every now and then.
Buen Camino everyone (even to all of you Shirley McClain fans).
Sorry, @RobertS26, but "custody of the eyes" comes to mind.I have found it interesting to look at the ratio of "likes" to number of posts that individuals have on this forum......
I disagree. I think that the "announcement" is usually a ploy to get people to beg them to stay, and agree that they were correct in whatever disagreement prompted the decision to leave.From time to time a forum member decides for one reason or another to leave this place this. Immediately another one posts their surprise of why announce that you are leaving. The reply is very simple - It´s a matter of upbringing. Some people have been taught that when you arrive to a place you introduce yourself and greet others and that when you leave you say goodbye.
Why one leaves is a for a different thread.
In any case soozansings I with you well in life and as I usually say......... ondo ibili !
MendiWalker
I disagree. I think that the "announcement" is usually a ploy to get people to beg them to stay, and agree that they were correct in whatever disagreement prompted the decision to leave.
Hija, @RobertS26. When the Forum began (2004?) there wasn't a 'Like' button to click. I think it was added in 2012. Before that people expressed their appreciation in other ways...I have found it interesting to look at the ratio of "likes" to number of posts that individuals have on this forum. Some people have posted thousands and thousands of times and yet only have several hundred "likes". Most people have a ratio of 1 or 2 "likes" to each post. I'd like to think I'm doing something right because my ratio of "likes" to posts is 5 to 1. Yet, some people choose to attack me. I just take solace in the fact that apparently most people think I have something useful to say on here every now and then.
Buen Camino everyone (even to all of you Shirley McClain fans).
ha ha! It took me an age to start clicking the 'Like' button. I felt like I was being lazy or cheating somehow by not saying why I liked something. Now I kinda like being a sloth, just clicking and cruising. It suppresses foot-in-mouth disease....which I seem to present with often...I was just about to mention this - as the 'like' button was definitely not around in 2011 when I joined the forum.
I do 'like' it though...!
Good manners don't require that a public announcement be broadcast when you arrive and depart a public place. Sometimes a PM, and/or a discreet departure are more appropriate and courteous to the good people in the crowd.Some people have been taught that when you arrive to a place you introduce yourself and greet others and that when you leave you say goodbye.
Yes, I thought about that inconsistency. It is just that that a public announcement of an unhappy departure makes everyone feel bad, even when person leaving says that most people are nice. Good manners need to be flexible.If it were´t good manners why is there a Pilgrim Introduction board on this forum?
Ondo Ibili !
This forum is a pretty good representation of the people you will meet on your Camino. As on the Camino you can choose to ignore some and choose to communicate with some. It is all up to you. Buen Camino, SY
AmenIndeed. So many people on social media don't seem to understand that a Forum means people can express every kind of opinion here. If it is disagreeable or harsh, well... suck it up. It's only an opinion, it's not the dreaded "judgement" or cruelty or (usually not) rudeness. Forums are for grown-ups who can give as good as they get, and who don't mope or freak out when everyone's ideas don't line up with their own.
You will get tons of compassion, advice, and even hand-holding here. But don't expect a big cheering section, or too many pats on the head.
Sweetness-and-light "support groups" and "counseling" pages are elsewhere on the web.
Canus_major I had to respond beyond a like because I feel your summary was right on. Both in the forum's strengths and weakness.
I, too,was raised to say good-bye even from an informal gathering. I acknowledge your presence, the leaving of it, and the moment in time our paths crossed. It's respectful.
We never know what's in another's mind or thoughts. In this group particularly, we share almost intimate moments of fears, excitement, and evolution. I would wonder where someone who had shared their thoughts was now. How many times does someone on the forum say "I haven't heard from so and so" or "I wonder whether they started/finished their Camino" or "whether our suggestion worked out".
Because this is where I come from, I am flummoxed to see interpretations of this departure as having such self serving ulterior motives. Can a good-bye just be a good-bye?
And while I have shared before on the pitfalls of nationalities and cultures trying to communicate in print, this tendency to KNOW what is in another's head has lead to assumptions, comments and reactions that may be misplaced
I can find myself worrying how some of what I say will be taken or misinterpreted. You all have so much to offer, and I guess one is the lesson that what you think of me is none of my business
Namaste
Nanc
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