Frank Mestre
Let’s Camino
- Time of past OR future Camino
- 1st. Camino coming up 29th. April
Camino Frances here I come.
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That sounds like a wonderful marriage and Camino together! But I think that the important message from @Frank Mestre's post is that, for many of us, it is not going to happen that way, for many reasons.Ian and I have just finished our Camino last week. Before we started I said: 800km! I have so much to tell you. Every afternoon after our showers I checked his feet for blisters because he doesn’t complain. Every morning, first thing, I taped his feet, because he can’t bend easily, and while I did my feet, he folded my liner and rolled up my sleeping bag. Whenever possible, in all the albergues he brought me coffee to bed. He checked my water supply and carried it as well. Because I’m not a morning person, he put up with my grumpiness for an hour before I ‘normalised’. We had our normal marital ups and downs but usually managed to sort it out before days end. I never got to tell him all that I wanted to because we met so many people and I listened sometimes more than I spoke. I also got to know him better than before. We shared so many wonderful moments and friendships that the days just flew by. And then we were finished. Perhaps we have to do another Camino so that I can tell him what I wanted to.
I agreeThat sounds like a wonderful marriage and Camino together! But I think that the important message from @Frank Mestre's post is that, for many of us, it is not going to happen that way, for many reasons.
Don't give up on either your spouse or your Camino plans, just because they don't go together!
Hey Tom hope your well. Thank you too true. Can’t wait till the next one IF I get my knee sorted. I’m bone on bone aparantly and I’m in pain. I’m strengthening the muscles around the knee at the moment, hope it’ll work. Kind regards mate.It is so good to hear from you again Frank. I remember your posts from before you went and were considering the Camino. I’m so glad it was a meaningful experience for you. It is good to know that we can have these experiences on our own and yet still be in strong relationships.
Spot onThat sounds like a wonderful marriage and Camino together! But I think that the important message from @Frank Mestre's post is that, for many of us, it is not going to happen that way, for many reasons.
Don't give up on either your spouse or your Camino plans, just because they don't go together!
Spot on C clearly.That sounds like a wonderful marriage and Camino together! But I think that the important message from @Frank Mestre's post is that, for many of us, it is not going to happen that way, for many reasons.
Don't give up on either your spouse or your Camino plans, just because they don't go together!
Hello Frank Terry here, If you look at some of my posts you will find your self in them .I completed my 920k in June this year from SJPDP to Finestierre. Wow! Wow wow! I’m enjoyed every step. So many pilgrims I met on the journey had their very personsal
reasons for embarking on such a arduous and at times thankless trek. At 62 I have been with my now wife for twenty odd years and we had been doing everything together. She was/is my sole mate in fact my only true friend. But at 62 I am ready and in a good position to go and explore the world, take time out away for months if necessary. But she at 52 is not. She is happy with two weeks in a posh hotel etc. So we were st a massive crossroads in our lives/relationship. Which way should I go? was the question. We argued and argued about her not wanting to do the
camino with me. I had never spent time on my own and I was terrified. In fact so much so that I aborted the same trek which I had planned with flights paid for the year before. So on the 31st.Msy I left on my own, still terrified. I can honestly say the moment I arrived in Biatitz airport and came across three others people with packs on their back and ended up sharing a cab with. I never looked back. I can now truly say I am
100% glad my wife didn’t come with me as we would have probably been separated by now. In fact and she knows this. I truly love her but I didn’t miss her at all. Often I forgot about my life back home as I was so absorbed in my life in the present. That and the amazing people I met were by far the highlights of my camino. I am now back and our relationship is very much on track. I have at last ‘grown up’ and come to terms that I’m ok on my own. I’ve realised that it’s ok for her not to want to do ALL the things I want. Thank you so my Camino. I’m so looking forward to my next Camino ( del Norte) next year.
Hi Frank, Congratulations on your Camino and on your journey of growth, personal discovery, and liberation from fear! I too am 62 and will be following your footsteps in April. I’m really looking forward to it. You described so well my experience of facing living alone following my divorce almost 20 years ago after 20 years of marriage. I remember that era so well. This time of my life parallels yours in that my fear now is facing retirement without having a fortune in the bank. They say that you discover the REAL reason for walking the Camino as you walk it. One of my reasons for thinking of it now is to help me with this transition. Thanks again for sharing! TomI completed my 920k in June this year from SJPDP to Finestierre. Wow! Wow wow! I’m enjoyed every step. So many pilgrims I met on the journey had their very personsal
reasons for embarking on such a arduous and at times thankless trek. At 62 I have been with my now wife for twenty odd years and we had been doing everything together. She was/is my sole mate in fact my only true friend. But at 62 I am ready and in a good position to go and explore the world, take time out away for months if necessary. But she at 52 is not. She is happy with two weeks in a posh hotel etc. So we were st a massive crossroads in our lives/relationship. Which way should I go? was the question. We argued and argued about her not wanting to do the
camino with me. I had never spent time on my own and I was terrified. In fact so much so that I aborted the same trek which I had planned with flights paid for the year before. So on the 31st.Msy I left on my own, still terrified. I can honestly say the moment I arrived in Biatitz airport and came across three others people with packs on their back and ended up sharing a cab with. I never looked back. I can now truly say I am
100% glad my wife didn’t come with me as we would have probably been separated by now. In fact and she knows this. I truly love her but I didn’t miss her at all. Often I forgot about my life back home as I was so absorbed in my life in the present. That and the amazing people I met were by far the highlights of my camino. I am now back and our relationship is very much on track. I have at last ‘grown up’ and come to terms that I’m ok on my own. I’ve realised that it’s ok for her not to want to do ALL the things I want. Thank you so my Camino. I’m so looking forward to my next Camino ( del Norte) next year.
Hey Tom hope your well. Thank you too true. Can’t wait till the next one IF I get my knee sorted. I’m bone on bone aparantly and I’m in pain. I’m strengthening the muscles around the knee at the moment, hope it’ll work. Kind regards mate.
Frank, you did the right thing. At 64, I left for Paris by myself for a month to study the language. My husband would have not enjoyed it at all (we are soul-mates and have been married for 11 years). He joined me after a month to tour southern France and was very happy doing so. Then, 6 months later, I had the opportunity to take a trek with 5 others in Nepal. My husband had no interest in doing this but kindly suggested I not miss this opportunity if I truly wanted to do it. I went for a month and it was fantastic. I never missed him either times as they were such great, exciting adventures. We pick up where we left off and are happy as clams. Our spouses don't always have to like the same things to make a happy marriage. We do a lot of traveling overseas together and hold great memories, but we also are comfortable in traveling alone too. Good for you!!! Have many other happy adventures with and without your spouse!I completed my 920k in June this year from SJPDP to Finestierre. Wow! Wow wow! I’m enjoyed every step. So many pilgrims I met on the journey had their very personsal
reasons for embarking on such a arduous and at times thankless trek. At 62 I have been with my now wife for twenty odd years and we had been doing everything together. She was/is my sole mate in fact my only true friend. But at 62 I am ready and in a good position to go and explore the world, take time out away for months if necessary. But she at 52 is not. She is happy with two weeks in a posh hotel etc. So we were st a massive crossroads in our lives/relationship. Which way should I go? was the question. We argued and argued about her not wanting to do the
camino with me. I had never spent time on my own and I was terrified. In fact so much so that I aborted the same trek which I had planned with flights paid for the year before. So on the 31st.Msy I left on my own, still terrified. I can honestly say the moment I arrived in Biatitz airport and came across three others people with packs on their back and ended up sharing a cab with. I never looked back. I can now truly say I am
100% glad my wife didn’t come with me as we would have probably been separated by now. In fact and she knows this. I truly love her but I didn’t miss her at all. Often I forgot about my life back home as I was so absorbed in my life in the present. That and the amazing people I met were by far the highlights of my camino. I am now back and our relationship is very much on track. I have at last ‘grown up’ and come to terms that I’m ok on my own. I’ve realised that it’s ok for her not to want to do ALL the things I want. Thank you so my Camino. I’m so looking forward to my next Camino ( del Norte) next year.
Oh, forgot to mention we are BOTH doing the Portuguese coastal/central in March of 2019 and it will be our first Camino.Frank, you did the right thing. At 64, I left for Paris by myself for a month to study the language. My husband would have not enjoyed it at all (we are soul-mates and have been married for 11 years). He joined me after a month to tour southern France and was very happy doing so. Then, 6 months later, I had the opportunity to take a trek with 5 others in Nepal. My husband had no interest in doing this but kindly suggested I not miss this opportunity if I truly wanted to do it. I went for a month and it was fantastic. I never missed him either times as they were such great, exciting adventures. We pick up where we left off and are happy as clams. Our spouses don't always have to like the same things to make a happy marriage. We do a lot of traveling overseas together and hold great memories, but we also are comfortable in traveling alone too. Good for you!!! Have many other happy adventures with and without your spouse!
I also agree - I am walking on my own and my partner of 26 years will be at home - he is happy to let me do my own thing and this for me is the basis of a very strong relationship- I love him all the more for being so supportive of everything I do and I of course am there for him- whatever works - every relationship is differentI agree
Let her read and search this forum. Do forum searches together. In two weeks time, probably less, we will have another Camino addict.Does anybody have an article they would recommend for my wife who is very wary of me walking this age 60 alone? I’m looking for something written that would respect fully sell her on the idea. Positive reasons or outcomes that would be attractive for the one staying behind. I really want to do the CF in june 19 so time is drawing very near
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