- Time of past OR future Camino
- Camino Francés (2018)
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What led them to this expectation? Why do they want you to be different? I like to think my family and friends don't want me to be to be drastically changed after a long walk with new friends.I think friends and family are disappointed that I have not become more "changed" by my camino. Does anyone else experience this (faulty) expectation on the part of people who stayed behind in the US?
That is, indeed, the more significant question. Perhaps you have communicated some disappointment to them.More important : are you " disappointed " with not having changed more?
@truthseekerfriends and family are disappointed that I have not become more "changed" by my camino
Absolutely.In one sense, devoting 30 plus days to hiking across Spain is a very selfish and self indulgent activity. Great numbers of people across the world do not have the resources nor the opportunity to "find themselves" in this manner.
It's not that OP wants/needs/seeks change (at least she didn't mention that) but her friends and family were kind of disappointed that she didn't "changed" (enough???) for whatever that means...Maybe before you do your next walk it would be worth considering what kind of transformation you are seeking.
It may even turn out that doing a Camino will not be the path to change - but it may continue to be an activity you enjoy and perhaps grow through.
Thanks - my reply was intended for the previous post so I have inserted her name to clarify.It's not that OP wants/needs/seeks change (at least she didn't mention that) but her friends and family were kind of disappointed that she didn't "changed" (enough???) for whatever that means...
I am not disappointed. The changes are there, and I have yet to fully understand them. My time post Camino has been one of becoming more aware of them and their subtlety. Some cn be communicated to others as lessons of the Way, but others cannot to be explained to others.Imho...why in heaven's name ,and I mean this in the best way possible , would people expect you to be not more changed?
A Camino can be transformative or it can be not so...
Please follow your own heart and feelings.
It is indeed a faulty expectation...
Might some people not have overly enthusiastic expectations from viewing the movie " the Way "? Or reading certain Camino books?
More important : are you " dissapointed " with not having changed more? If not : why worry?!
And even more important: Ultreia and Suseia!
He he he! Thanks for the comment!! I missed the House of Halos, but perhaps can fashion one out of glitter wrap.When you arrive in Santiago, visit the House of Halos for all your halo needs. That should do the trick.
What led them to this expectation? Why do they want you to be different? I like to think my family and friends don't want me to be to be drastically changed after a long walk with new friends.
That is, indeed, the more significant question. Perhaps you have communicated some disappointment to them.
Ordinary people go on the camino, and ordinary people come home. I like to think that I come home a little stronger physically and maybe even spiritually (whatever that means), well balanced in my priorities, with happy memories and a readiness to continue with my life. I don't do drama.
Transformation, even if desired, is not that easy!
Kanga, I agree with your observation. I have become increasingly aware of not always exercising the kindness and compassion that I experienced on the Camino. But I do think SabineP's comment is also a possibility -- that many people in the US have formed faulty expectations having seen that movie, or having read or heard about the pilgrimage. Personally, I did not expect any dramatic transformation either during or after my Camino.The biggest change is the realisation that I am definitely not saintly enough and therefore I have to keep going back and doing it again.
I was supremely happy at times on my walk, and at times very upset, but the sum of everything has been that I was very glad to have done it, and that in fact, it has changed my outlook on my life. (The details of that change are still making themselves known.)Not me, but I am fortunate to have friends who understand the rigors of transformation and expect no miracles.
If people expected you to come home a saint...
Well, maybe it's happened. But I'm not holding my breath. Nor should they.
But are you happier with the you that you are?
In one sense, devoting 30 plus days to hiking across Spain is a very selfish and self indulgent activity. Great numbers of people across the world do not have the resources nor the opportunity to "find themselves" in this manner.
Undeniably, it's that too.it's like dancing in the rain or more precisely, an expression of happiness, hope and love of life.
And not everyone is happy all the time, just as not everyone is in pain all the time. Not me and I bet not even you.not everyone is in pain. Not everyone is dissatisfied or unhappy.
Heavens, who said any of this?If you feel alienated in your life and with those around you, then a change is necessary. This should entail a look at yourself, your lifestyle or how and why you got to where you find yourself.
Even saints deepen seek to their compassion. And I bet none of us are that. So it's all good.It may be an unique experience for some to establish connections at a level that may be new to them
I totally appreciate the way you tell this story @Aurigny , because it really hones in on the challenges we all face...and how even those guys had to deal with being works in progress. And if they chickened out when things got a bit tough...welll...I guess we don't have to be perfect.It transformed him to the point that when the mob with clubs and swords showed up at Gethsemane, he disappeared over the horizon with his ten surviving friends and spent the next three days hunkered down behind locked doors.
We're all a work in progress.
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