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I knew nothing about contrails till I spent the night in the lovely albergue in Arrés on the Aragonés, where the hospitalero took us all to a great viewing spot for the sunset and proceeded to tell us all about them. Maybe people who believe in contrails are drawn to the Camino. Sorry, off-topic, I know.She matches my pace and starts to talk about “the deep state” followed by the “dangers of contrails”
That's the part I'm looking forward to, no responsibilities other than putting one foot in front of the other.So for me, it is so important to make sure that there is not an additional layer of responsibilities added on once I arrive in Spain.
I love thisAbsolutely nothing wrong with walking alone, you will get enough company at your daily destination. There are those who recharge in others company, extroverts, and those who recharge alone, introverts and there is nothing wrong with either sort.
By the way you don't want to walk with this lady:
Jane from California
I am at peace enjoying the solitude, a warm day and a gentle pace. No hurry, it’s a short stage, a day to enjoy and savour. Then, suddenly, Jane from California appears. She matches my pace and starts to talk about “the deep state” followed by the “dangers of contrails”, “microwaves”, “fake vaccinations”, “fake moon landings’, the “Kennedy assassination conspiracy”. The tedium increases, I speed up, she matches me still talking, unstoppable, relentless. I stop for a pee, she waits. I slow down, she slows down. How do I loose her and regain my day? She moves seamlessly to the “Illuminati” followed by “UFO’s” and what she calls “the Roswell Conspiracy” and on and on. Prattling and babbIing she does not stop. What the hell do I do now? A village comes and goes, no chance enjoy it. The next appears, it has a bar and I need coffee. Outside the bar is Alice, a friend of Jane’s. Someone help me here there could be two of them now. Much Hi’ing, much hugging, much cheek kissing and she stops to talk with Alice. Thank you God. I walk on as fast as possible, desperate for coffee, find a bar off the route and hide. The camino has given me another lesson.
Part of me wants to say "Camino accepts all kinds..." and just "Buen Camino!" that stuff... But part of me feels so, so, so sorry that you seem to have fallen accidentally into the company of my brother in female form. Eep.Absolutely nothing wrong with walking alone, you will get enough company at your daily destination. There are those who recharge in others company, extroverts, and those who recharge alone, introverts and there is nothing wrong with either sort.
By the way you don't want to walk with this lady:
Jane from California
I am at peace enjoying the solitude, a warm day and a gentle pace. No hurry, it’s a short stage, a day to enjoy and savour. Then, suddenly, Jane from California appears. She matches my pace and starts to talk about “the deep state” followed by the “dangers of contrails”, “microwaves”, “fake vaccinations”, “fake moon landings’, the “Kennedy assassination conspiracy”. The tedium increases, I speed up, she matches me still talking, unstoppable, relentless. I stop for a pee, she waits. I slow down, she slows down. How do I loose her and regain my day? She moves seamlessly to the “Illuminati” followed by “UFO’s” and what she calls “the Roswell Conspiracy” and on and on. Prattling and babbIing she does not stop. What the hell do I do now? A village comes and goes, no chance enjoy it. The next appears, it has a bar and I need coffee. Outside the bar is Alice, a friend of Jane’s. Someone help me here there could be two of them now. Much Hi’ing, much hugging, much cheek kissing and she stops to talk with Alice. Thank you God. I walk on as fast as possible, desperate for coffee, find a bar off the route and hide. The camino has given me another lesson.
This is exactly why I love going on Camino alone! In fact it's why I like to go on walks and hikes alone at home too., I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay.
Or maybe start talking about contrails, the Illuminati, or the fake moon landing?BTW, I got a tip from an iconic Camino forum member, who advises that the best way to keep people from bothering you when you are walking is to carry rosary beads and mumble to yourself.
God, no.Am I being selfish?
I don't know whether to laugh or express compassion. Just...OMG, both.Jane from California
BTW, I got a tip from an iconic Camino forum member, who advises that the best way to keep people from bothering you when you are walking is to carry rosary beads and mumble to yourself.
I don't think you're being selfish at all. I thru-hiked the CF alone. Best thing I ever did. Walked at my pace, took my time to snap some photographs, stopped at some picturesque town(s) or on a patch of grass-snacked on a sandwiches or whatever and took everything in. No pressure to do as others do. That freedom of doing what I want, when I want and how I want is the BEST! Nothing wrong with hiking along side of others and shooting the breeze, which one does from time to time, but I always enjoyed the sound of the wind and the crunch of gravel beneath my feet. The solitude that the CF or any other long distance hike offers is one of the things that I find most appealing.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
You are not alone.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
My first camino from SJPP to Finisterre was solo and I’m very happy it was. Since then I’ve walked solo, with a dear friend (twice), and with my husband (many times). All wonderful experiences, inside and out!Go with someone else and everything has to be negotiated, you turn inwards, sit and eat only together and worse, talk about what Steve or Sue are doing to their kitchen or bathroom back home - you aren't 'there' - and you never get the chance to turn inwards into your internal spaces.
A nicely 'finessed' answer because you note ".... it really comes down to choosing wisely."My first camino from SJPP to Finisterre was solo and I’m very happy it was. Since then I’ve walked solo, with a dear friend (twice), and with my husband (many times). All wonderful experiences, inside and out!
I disagree with David’s statement. That may be so for some - I'm sure not all - and that has not been my experience. I’ve never felt joined at the hip with either my friend or my husband, nor they me. And I don’t recall any kitchen renovation banter.Mostly we are each walking with our own thoughts.
Like all other commenters, I’d say ‘There is nothing wrong with wanting to walk alone. And it’s wonderful.’
As can be walking with another person - it really comes down to choosing wisely.
'finessed'? I was just contributing my experience. And that walking with others is not necessarily the experience that David described.A nicely 'finessed' answer because you note ".... it really comes down to choosing wisely."
Absolutely nothing wrong with walking alone, you will get enough company at your daily destination. There are those who recharge in others company, extroverts, and those who recharge alone, introverts and there is nothing wrong with either sort.
By the way you don't want to walk with this lady:
Jane from California
I am at peace enjoying the solitude, a warm day and a gentle pace. No hurry, it’s a short stage, a day to enjoy and savour. Then, suddenly, Jane from California appears. She matches my pace and starts to talk about “the deep state” followed by the “dangers of contrails”, “microwaves”, “fake vaccinations”, “fake moon landings’, the “Kennedy assassination conspiracy”. The tedium increases, I speed up, she matches me still talking, unstoppable, relentless. I stop for a pee, she waits. I slow down, she slows down. How do I loose her and regain my day? She moves seamlessly to the “Illuminati” followed by “UFO’s” and what she calls “the Roswell Conspiracy” and on and on. Prattling and babbIing she does not stop. What the hell do I do now? A village comes and goes, no chance enjoy it. The next appears, it has a bar and I need coffee. Outside the bar is Alice, a friend of Jane’s. Someone help me here there could be two of them now. Much Hi’ing, much hugging, much cheek kissing and she stops to talk with Alice. Thank you God. I walk on as fast as possible, desperate for coffee, find a bar off the route and hide. The camino has given me another lesson.
I'm with you! I get the incredulous looks and "you shouldn't go by yourself!"I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
What an odd story. Why didn't you just excuse yourself and tell her you prefer to walk alone? I have done that many times on the Camino. People understand. Also how did the subject of the Apollo 11 mission and JFK come up in the first place?Absolutely nothing wrong with walking alone, you will get enough company at your daily destination. There are those who recharge in others company, extroverts, and those who recharge alone, introverts and there is nothing wrong with either sort.
By the way you don't want to walk with this lady:
Jane from California
I am at peace enjoying the solitude, a warm day and a gentle pace. No hurry, it’s a short stage, a day to enjoy and savour. Then, suddenly, Jane from California appears. She matches my pace and starts to talk about “the deep state” followed by the “dangers of contrails”, “microwaves”, “fake vaccinations”, “fake moon landings’, the “Kennedy assassination conspiracy”. The tedium increases, I speed up, she matches me still talking, unstoppable, relentless. I stop for a pee, she waits. I slow down, she slows down. How do I loose her and regain my day? She moves seamlessly to the “Illuminati” followed by “UFO’s” and what she calls “the Roswell Conspiracy” and on and on. Prattling and babbIing she does not stop. What the hell do I do now? A village comes and goes, no chance enjoy it. The next appears, it has a bar and I need coffee. Outside the bar is Alice, a friend of Jane’s. Someone help me here there could be two of them now. Much Hi’ing, much hugging, much cheek kissing and she stops to talk with Alice. Thank you God. I walk on as fast as possible, desperate for coffee, find a bar off the route and hide. The camino has given me another lesson.
You will!I will relish my alone time,
@jenny@zen -'finessed'? I was just contributing my experience. And that walking with others is not necessarily the experience that David described.
If you skip the rosary beads and just mumble to yourself with no apparent excuse, while looking at your fingers...wouldn't that actually work better?BTW, I got a tip from an iconic Camino forum member, who advises that the best way to keep people from bothering you when you are walking is to carry rosary beads and mumble to yourself.
You are profoundly more patient than I!Absolutely nothing wrong with walking alone, you will get enough company at your daily destination. There are those who recharge in others company, extroverts, and those who recharge alone, introverts and there is nothing wrong with either sort.
By the way you don't want to walk with this lady:
Jane from California
I am at peace enjoying the solitude, a warm day and a gentle pace. No hurry, it’s a short stage, a day to enjoy and savour. Then, suddenly, Jane from California appears. She matches my pace and starts to talk about “the deep state” followed by the “dangers of contrails”, “microwaves”, “fake vaccinations”, “fake moon landings’, the “Kennedy assassination conspiracy”. The tedium increases, I speed up, she matches me still talking, unstoppable, relentless. I stop for a pee, she waits. I slow down, she slows down. How do I loose her and regain my day? She moves seamlessly to the “Illuminati” followed by “UFO’s” and what she calls “the Roswell Conspiracy” and on and on. Prattling and babbIing she does not stop. What the hell do I do now? A village comes and goes, no chance enjoy it. The next appears, it has a bar and I need coffee. Outside the bar is Alice, a friend of Jane’s. Someone help me here there could be two of them now. Much Hi’ing, much hugging, much cheek kissing and she stops to talk with Alice. Thank you God. I walk on as fast as possible, desperate for coffee, find a bar off the route and hide. The camino has given me another lesson.
Except the rosary would give the off ramp back to not-scary in case you met someone you actually would like to get knowIf you skip the rosary beads and just mumble to yourself with no apparent excuse, while looking at your fingers...wouldn't that actually work better?
Hi B . I didn’t get the comment about the finessed response - but nor was I offended.@jenny@zen -
It seems that I may have caused some offense which was certainly NOT intended! Apologies sincerely offered...
Mine was an attempt (apparently, poorly done) to support your proposition that walking well with a companion CAN be done. However, as you noted "choosing wisely" is the key.
B
That's the part I'm looking forward to, no responsibilities other than putting one foot in front of the other.
Probably doesn't work so well nowadays. When someone wandered down the road mumbling to themselves we used to think "alcohol" or "drugs" or "mental illness". These days the diagnosis is probably "Bluetooth"If you skip the rosary beads and just mumble to yourself with no apparent excuse, while looking at your fingers...wouldn't that actually work better?
And for me, I might consider it as an opportunity for others to practice being non-judgmental when they see me with my ear pods (which, btw, I would still have to buy because I don't own these either).For me, I might worry that the latter courses of action would affect the authenticity I try and practice on the Camino.
I'm not meaning to judge those who use them, either as intended or in this fashion. That's why I prefaced my statement with "for me". For others, their choices for themselves are perfectly valid.And for me, I might consider it as an opportunity for others to practice being non-judgmental when they see me with my ear pods (which, btw, I would still have to buy because I don't own these either).
My first Camino was solo. One friend really wanted to go with me and I said no with the reason that it would become "our" trip instead of mine. I met many people, walked with some, walked alone but the best part was walking at my own pace. You will find that most pilgrims "get it" when it comes to how you wish to do your Camino. I have walked two more Caminos, one with a couple and one with a friend. All were good. EnjoyI'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
Totally agree!I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I went by myself when I did it. And you are never truly alone unless you make an effort to do so. There are so many others walking as well. As for anything "wrong" with it; absolutely not!I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I walked alone in 2017 and enjoyed every minute of it. More freedom to enjoy the sights without someone saying we need to move along.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
Viva Terlingua you have just accurately described how I feel about walking the Camino .. some people think I am very strange but the Camino is MY time for ME ? I have nobody to worry about but myself and I too love to talk to people both along the route and when I stop but only when I feel like it.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I have done 3Caminos,always alone and love the freedom to stop when and where I want and walk at my own pace.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
Glad you didn't use that strategy when I joined you for part of the way in 2018!Breaking away from a "Jane from California" who has latched onto you may be as simple as Not showering or washing your clothes for a few days.
I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I found that being an older, extraordinarily slow walker meant that I was able to have a lot of time alone on the Camino without having to worry about strategies for having some solitude. I usually had some quick, refreshing conversation that cured my momentary loneliness, and then we said our goodbyes. After that I returned to my solitary looking and thinking (or not thinking) as I trekked on by myself.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
You know that I hung on your every word SteveGlad you didn't use that strategy when I joined you for part of the way in 2018!
It’s the best way to go!I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
Hi.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I'm the sameI'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I'm just the same,it's not unusual, relaxeI'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
II'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I’ve done 3 Camino’s on my own for the same reasons. I’ve met other pilgrims along the way - which was a nice break but I always leave myself the option to break away whenever I like. Enjoy.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I to walk on my own, and at times when I feel like and there is someone I join up with others.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I walked the Camino alone in 2008. It was amazing! Also I meet and made so many Camino friends along the way. I found most pilgrims were quite happy when I said I now wish to walk alone.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
Perfectly normal. On my first, my son came with me for the first two weeks then on I went on my own. On 4 subsequent trips, I walked on my own, well, I started on my own but never walked into Santiago on my own. I always met someone who I was happy walking with but never to the point that we kept each other back. Always knew where we planned to stop and met up there most of the time but if we missed each other we always met up again eventually. On one occasion a peregrino approached me and asked if I was Bob's friend. He had a message to say he was staying somewhere else and would I like to join him. Its just the way it works out. I never met anyone who finished on their own. So go, do your own thing and just let whats going to happen, happen. Enjoy the moment, make no rules for yourself and just remember to bid everyone Buen Camino. Dont get upset if they dont respond cause they have earphones in. Just walk, be yourself and be happyI'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I love to walk alone and watch the contrails on a clear day. And they come in many nationalities...this one west of Sarria in 2017 is obviously Scottish.I knew nothing about contrails till I spent the night in the lovely albergue in Arrés on the Aragonés, where the hospitalero took us all to a great viewing spot for the sunset and proceeded to tell us all about them. Maybe people who believe in contrails are drawn to the Camino. Sorry, off-topic, I know.
BTW, I got a tip from an iconic Camino forum member, who advises that the best way to keep people from bothering you when you are walking is to carry rosary beads and mumble to yourself.
Lots of people walk alone, I did in Spring 2019. I loved it and you make "walking buddies" along the way if you wish to. It is perfect. Here in the USA it seems weird to say you will alone, but once on the Camino you see it is rather normal.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
Thak you Viva, your post struck a nerve in me. This is my post from last year, which I went back to read again when I saw your post:I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I agree. I prefer walking solo.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
When I want to walk solo and another joins me, I simply say , "I'll let you walk ahead, I want to walk solo today , enjoy your walk.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I walked it alone and loved it. I would say that about 50% of the pilgrims were alone.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
Selfish? no way, just smart... if I ever am able to walk the Camino again(I refuse to get the jab), I will be more than willing to "travel to/from" the Camino with 1 or more people, but the walking part is much best being solo(ish). With the knowledge that we would most certainly be bumping into each other lots of times during the walking.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
Well put.My first Camino was solo. One friend really wanted to go with me and I said no with the reason that it would become "our" trip instead of mine. I met many people, walked with some, walked alone but the best part was walking at my own pace. You will find that most pilgrims "get it" when it comes to how you wish to do your Camino. I have walked two more Caminos, one with a couple and one with a friend. All were good. Enjoy
Buen Camino
In 2012 after retiring my buddy and I had planned to walk the Camino Frances. All was falling into place, our respective wives were fully supportive and we were good to go in 2014.A few weeks prior to departure my buddy had to cancel his trip and my wife urged me to go on my own. Go on your own, she said you will have a different Camino and maybe a better Camino. She could not have been more right. Walking on your own gives you much more independence , you are a free spirit in that you do not have to agree any action with someone else. You can walk solo or walk with others who may be interesting or not. One thing that you must be prepared to do is to chat with complete strangers if you want company and also to read the signs if they do not want company and that's fine too..One thing that amused me was sometimes you might meet someone in an albergue who might be slightly aloof and meet them a few days later and you are greeted like a long lost brother.I walked with so many different people , young and old and have many great memories from that journey.I did walk it again in 2017 with my pal and that was equally enjoyable but different.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
Having walked the Frances on two occasions with and without a walking partner, I find your attitude in complete harmony with the spirit of the Camino. I think you have hit on the key element of a successful Camino, that would be long periods of solitude and short burst of companionship. For me the Camino was a block of time of solitary reflection and respite which is hard to come by in this time of mass communication, constant bombarment of information and familial responsibilities. I say carry on with your walking plans and enjoy your Camino. P.S. May-June is a perfect time to walk the Camino. Thoughts from another grumpy old man. Buen CaminoI'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
Oh @Stroller you need to stop being so polite & enjoy Your Camino. Next time you meet Jane or any or her cronies, look her straight in the eye, & in your best Irish accent say "pog me thoin" (pronounced poog me hone) which translates to "kiss my ass"! She probably won't have a clue what you're saying, but if the 'luck o' the Irish' is with ye, she'll buzz off!Absolutely nothing wrong with walking alone, you will get enough company at your daily destination. There are those who recharge in others company, extroverts, and those who recharge alone, introverts and there is nothing wrong with either sort.
By the way you don't want to walk with this lady:
Jane from California
I am at peace enjoying the solitude, a warm day and a gentle pace. No hurry, it’s a short stage, a day to enjoy and savour. Then, suddenly, Jane from California appears. She matches my pace and starts to talk about “the deep state” followed by the “dangers of contrails”, “microwaves”, “fake vaccinations”, “fake moon landings’, the “Kennedy assassination conspiracy”. The tedium increases, I speed up, she matches me still talking, unstoppable, relentless. I stop for a pee, she waits. I slow down, she slows down. How do I loose her and regain my day? She moves seamlessly to the “Illuminati” followed by “UFO’s” and what she calls “the Roswell Conspiracy” and on and on. Prattling and babbIing she does not stop. What the hell do I do now? A village comes and goes, no chance enjoy it. The next appears, it has a bar and I need coffee. Outside the bar is Alice, a friend of Jane’s. Someone help me here there could be two of them now. Much Hi’ing, much hugging, much cheek kissing and she stops to talk with Alice. Thank you God. I walk on as fast as possible, desperate for coffee, find a bar off the route and hide. The camino has given me another lesson.
I shook off a dog that tried to attach itself to me in Villafranca by walking into an ironmongers through one door and leaving through another on a different street . . .Absolutely nothing wrong with walking alone, you will get enough company at your daily destination. There are those who recharge in others company, extroverts, and those who recharge alone, introverts and there is nothing wrong with either sort.
By the way you don't want to walk with this lady:
Jane from California
I am at peace enjoying the solitude, a warm day and a gentle pace. No hurry, it’s a short stage, a day to enjoy and savour. Then, suddenly, Jane from California appears. She matches my pace and starts to talk about “the deep state” followed by the “dangers of contrails”, “microwaves”, “fake vaccinations”, “fake moon landings’, the “Kennedy assassination conspiracy”. The tedium increases, I speed up, she matches me still talking, unstoppable, relentless. I stop for a pee, she waits. I slow down, she slows down. How do I loose her and regain my day? She moves seamlessly to the “Illuminati” followed by “UFO’s” and what she calls “the Roswell Conspiracy” and on and on. Prattling and babbIing she does not stop. What the hell do I do now? A village comes and goes, no chance enjoy it. The next appears, it has a bar and I need coffee. Outside the bar is Alice, a friend of Jane’s. Someone help me here there could be two of them now. Much Hi’ing, much hugging, much cheek kissing and she stops to talk with Alice. Thank you God. I walk on as fast as possible, desperate for coffee, find a bar off the route and hide. The camino has given me another lesson.
The best gift you can give yourself is to follow your heart and March to the beat of your own drum. Stop when you want, go the extra little bit if you feel up to it. You aren’t be selfish at all. You are honouring yourself. Have an amazing Camino!I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I'm respectfully wondering why this is even a question. The Camino is about YOUR walk...do it your way, be as selfish as you want, doesn't matter one bit what others think, as long as you treat them with respect in passing. This forum is incredibly useful but the flip side is that the true spirit of the Camino gets lost in all the questions and answers. Go with questions and enjoy finding your own answers or finding no answers at all.I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
I have done big group, small group, bestie, partner, solo ... I did solo 3 times! Now, my journeys were just one week stints, but a week can feel like a month if you're not enjoying it! The big group was my first Camino experience & I loved it! The small group was my second Camino experience; & it was so enjoyable! The bestie was my third Camino experience & it was hilarious! I did my 4th, 5th & 6th Caminos, solo - indescribable & so like no 'trip' I've ever had before; especially the 6th, which was in memory of my Dad & though I had some 'hairy, early, dark mornings', He was especially with me then & we had some laughs! The 7th was with my hubby, who just had to see what was 'pulling me to Spain for a week every summer'! He really enjoyed it, but couldn't keep up with my pace at times & we'd laugh about that every evening, as he bandaged his feet & I sipped vino tinto! The Camino will be whatever you want it to be. Don't have any expectations; listen to your body, & definitely go solo!I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
Absolutely nothing wrong with walking alone, you will get enough company at your daily destination. There are those who recharge in others company, extroverts, and those who recharge alone, introverts and there is nothing wrong with either sort.
By the way you don't want to walk with this lady:
Jane from California
I am at peace enjoying the solitude, a warm day and a gentle pace. No hurry, it’s a short stage, a day to enjoy and savour. Then, suddenly, Jane from California appears. She matches my pace and starts to talk about “the deep state” followed by the “dangers of contrails”, “microwaves”, “fake vaccinations”, “fake moon landings’, the “Kennedy assassination conspiracy”. The tedium increases, I speed up, she matches me still talking, unstoppable, relentless. I stop for a pee, she waits. I slow down, she slows down. How do I loose her and regain my day? She moves seamlessly to the “Illuminati” followed by “UFO’s” and what she calls “the Roswell Conspiracy” and on and on. Prattling and babbIing she does not stop. What the hell do I do now? A village comes and goes, no chance enjoy it. The next appears, it has a bar and I need coffee. Outside the bar is Alice, a friend of Jane’s. Someone help me here there could be two of them now. Much Hi’ing, much hugging, much cheek kissing and she stops to talk with Alice. Thank you God. I walk on as fast as possible, desperate for coffee, find a bar off the route and hide. The camino has given me another lesson.
I walked from Astorga to Santiago in 2016 with my wife. We had a great time. But we only stayed in an Albergue once and the rest stayed in Pensions. It was cheaper and more convenient. But I was a faster walker and and had to slow down for her and we had to compromise about a lot of things. This year I'm taking 15 days to walk from Pamplona to where ever that may take me. She has given me her blessing and is watching our 4 yr old son. So I get to stop and start and sleep where I want too. I have a little guilt but she has said I am more vested in the Camino than her. I like being a minimalist and challenged with the obstacles the Camino provides........I leave March 27th....and getting a little nervous..I'm planning on doing the Frances in May-June and have told numerous people of my plans. I've had several people offer to go with me. Some find it odd that I would go by myself. However, I want to walk at my own pace, stop when I want to stop, stay where I want to stay. Am I being selfish? While walking I'm content to walk with someone else 25% of the time but the rest of the time I prefer to walk solo. Once reaching my destination or even stopping for a break I love socializing, so I'm not a grumpy old man, well maybe oldAnybody else feel the same?
The voice of experience ... love it!A very good and amusing story about a painful experience.
Perhaps essential pre-learned Camino phrases should include "No hablo inglés", "Ich spreche kein Englisch", "Je ne parle pas anglais", etc., or, more universally, sign language to the effect that one is a deaf mute.
Or, just start asking the new "friend" to loan you a few hundred Euros to help you get by until next week. Be persistent.
This is so good (tho I love dogs, but on Camino, there are varying 'species'!I shook off a dog that tried to attach itself to me in Villafranca by walking into an ironmongers through one door and leaving through another on a different street . . .
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