Dutchwalk53
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- Time of past OR future Camino
- CF 2015 with son #1, CF 2016 alone, CF 2017 with son #2 and husband , CF Sept 2018 with daughter
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I am also a Camino addict,whereas my wife could think of nothing worse to her.We have two yorkies and it suits all round for one of us to look after them whilst the other is away.My wife goes on holiday with one of our sons and family,last time U.S.A.while I go guilt free on Camino.I am so lucky.So I came back from my first Camino and discovered I want to go again.....and probably again and again
Now that being said my husband is not into walking AT ALL. He is retired and enjoys Tennis and Golf whereas my thing is ......walking! I am still working so can only take 2 or 3 weeks a year off . If it were just up to me .... I would just go for 3 weeks to Spain next spring. However I do want and need to go on vacations with my husband too. I enjoy going on trips with him but as I wrote I have time restrictions.
So we chatted about it a bit and I think that coming year I will do only the first 2 weeks of the Camino and then the year after again the last 2 weeks or so. This way I can still go on vacation with my husband 1 week.
My question is do more of you have partners/husbands that absolutely don"t share the "Passion for the Camino " with you and how do you deal with all without feeling " guilty" spending so much time on it?
Hi, I'm more of an addict than my wife. I blame her for my addiction.So I came back from my first Camino and discovered I want to go again.....and probably again and again
Now that being said my husband is not into walking AT ALL. He is retired and enjoys Tennis and Golf whereas my thing is ......walking! I am still working so can only take 2 or 3 weeks a year off . If it were just up to me .... I would just go for 3 weeks to Spain next spring. However I do want and need to go on vacations with my husband too. I enjoy going on trips with him but as I wrote I have time restrictions.
So we chatted about it a bit and I think that coming year I will do only the first 2 weeks of the Camino and then the year after again the last 2 weeks or so. This way I can still go on vacation with my husband 1 week.
My question is do more of you have partners/husbands that absolutely don"t share the "Passion for the Camino " with you and how do you deal with all without feeling " guilty" spending so much time on it?
True. I was lucky enI simply realize I was given a gift to have made the journey, I agree returning would be wonderful but my spouse does not seem to have the call. So I am trying to get her to try a 2 week walk. I think for those of us who walked solo we can only try to share the experience. Like you we are both still working so patience is definatatly needed. The Camino is like all things only we as individuals determine what our priorities should be.
One of the things I miss from living in Holland (Yes I'm Dutch but live since 1994 in the USA) the LONG vacationsHi, I'm more of an addict than my wife. I blame her for my addiction.
She walked the Camino Frances in 2013,for her was it a very hard time .
We do a different Camino together every two years. And the years in between I walk alone an other one. This works for us.
Wish you well and a Buen Camino, Peter.
Ha ha My son actually stopped walking in the Ghost town with the golf course (Ciruena ?) on the Camino and hit some ballsMy partner and I have dissonant work patterns and occasionally different views on what exactly constitutes fun. The Beloved has walked with me and may again in the future but is not Camino focussed (obsessed). Then again she does stuff that doesn't ring any bells for me. We worked out a while ago that for us time spent together was what made us work, happily together, as a couple. But it wasn't what we had to do all the time. I do my stuff, she does hers. Sometimes I get up and make that first pot of tea, sometimes she does. Sometimes I hike, sometimes she does what she does.
Guilt. I would feel guilty if I brought harm to another through action or inaction. Otherwise its just time to talk it through again.
ps. Perhaps you should tell your husband about all those golf courses in Rioja and Navarra with no queues for the tees and bargain golf-buggy hire
So I came back from my first Camino and discovered I want to go again.....and probably again and again
Now that being said my husband is not into walking AT ALL. He is retired and enjoys Tennis and Golf whereas my thing is ......walking! I am still working so can only take 2 or 3 weeks a year off . If it were just up to me .... I would just go for 3 weeks to Spain next spring. However I do want and need to go on vacations with my husband too. I enjoy going on trips with him but as I wrote I have time restrictions.
So we chatted about it a bit and I think that coming year I will do only the first 2 weeks of the Camino and then the year after again the last 2 weeks or so. This way I can still go on vacation with my husband 1 week.
My question is do more of you have partners/husbands that absolutely don"t share the "Passion for the Camino " with you and how do you deal with all without feeling " guilty" spending so much time on it?
My partner joined me, Joe and his wife litter-picking in 2014 and she loved it: especially the peace and hospitality at the Peaceable Kingdom. She would probably also enjoy a short Camino, but it wouldn't be her first choice of activity.Dutchwalk53:
My wife does not understand my obsession with the Camino. She came with me in December 2014 and picked garbage for three days with Rebekah's crew. I sure know how to treat my wife to a good time. We also spent a couple of days in Santiago and Madrid .
Wonderful ! And I agree it is a great "addiction" . My problem is not so much that my husband doesn't "allow" me, it's more the fact that I'm not retired yet and only have 3 weeks a year off.This addiction is one of the most positive things that has occurred in my life since my retirement.
Wonderful ! And I agree it is a great "addiction" . My problem is not so much that my husband doesn't "allow" me, it's more the fact that I'm not retired yet and only have 3 weeks a year off.
Never looked at it that way ! Thanks because that is so trueI wish that I was still too young to retire. Because you are too young, that means that the Camino will be there for you to enjoy for many years to come.
I think my husband is getting used to it finally ha ha . I have to say...I didn't expect that this "addiction" would happen either but once back from my first Camino a few weeks....there it was , I got the bugBoy does this topic resonate!
I just finished my second Camino - and immediately began planning to go back and walk again some day. My dear wife (I'm an Anglican Catholic priest, we're married) thinks I'm nuts. She wouldn't walk the Camino if I paid her to do so. But she's always been there for me, and if, someday, I say "I've simply got to go back!", she'll reply "You're hopeless!" -- and then help me pack.
I have the same problem. I walked the CF in April/May this year, without my wife, who went to Africa for about a month without me. I honestly believe she does not feel up to the physical challenge = we are both in our 70's.So I came back from my first Camino and discovered I want to go again.....and probably again and again
Now that being said my husband is not into walking AT ALL. He is retired and enjoys Tennis and Golf whereas my thing is ......walking! I am still working so can only take 2 or 3 weeks a year off . If it were just up to me .... I would just go for 3 weeks to Spain next spring. However I do want and need to go on vacations with my husband too. I enjoy going on trips with him but as I wrote I have time restrictions.
So we chatted about it a bit and I think that coming year I will do only the first 2 weeks of the Camino and then the year after again the last 2 weeks or so. This way I can still go on vacation with my husband 1 week.
My question is do more of you have partners/husbands that absolutely don"t share the "Passion for the Camino " with you and how do you deal with all without feeling " guilty" spending so much time on it?
So I came back from my first Camino and discovered I want to go again.....and probably again and again
Now that being said my husband is not into walking AT ALL. He is retired and enjoys Tennis and Golf whereas my thing is ......walking! I am still working so can only take 2 or 3 weeks a year off . If it were just up to me .... I would just go for 3 weeks to Spain next spring. However I do want and need to go on vacations with my husband too. I enjoy going on trips with him but as I wrote I have time restrictions.
So we chatted about it a bit and I think that coming year I will do only the first 2 weeks of the Camino and then the year after again the last 2 weeks or so. This way I can still go on vacation with my husband 1 week.
My question is do more of you have partners/husbands that absolutely don"t share the "Passion for the Camino " with you and how do you deal with all without feeling " guilty" spending so much time on it?
My husband is retired here in FL and traveled plenty his whole life and just doesn't feel the need to go places so much anymore. He'll go for me but..........However he will never do any part of the Camino with me. He just doesn't enjoy it. Reason I started this thread was I felt guilty too, but since we have talked a lot about my need to keep doing this and he is actually fine with all. It was more me then him who thought it would be an issue if I go (and keep going) alone. Many people on this site have talk about "the pull' to do the Camino and once done got stuck with the bugMy husband's concept of vacation is being an aristocrat for a few weeks-- gourmet food, servants, gardens, golf... He is happy with a fantastic view and a place for him to work on his research. (He is a retired professor.) I get so bored and feel trapped that I find myself pacing back and forth-- I also find myself bored with the conversations going on in such places. So, my son and I walked the Camino last Spring. I do feel a bit guilty still leaving him and my older son on their own to take care of the house and the animals (horse, dog, cats). But I really needed to walk the Camino-- I had been thinking about if for 10 years. I sent my husband photos and texted every evening-- though sometimes it was only one line at the end of an exhausting day.
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