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You said exactly what was appropriate at this moment. He is / "was"? your friend?What else can you say but "Sure, it would be an honor and a privilege."
Inappropriately I wanted to "like" your post with a laugh for the humor portion of it. By quoting the portion above where you are looking for a bump of energy it may be more appropriate. Remember the fun (and funny times) and talk about them. The laughs should help you get through the sad times.So, yeah, there's stress and sorrow...but I am pretty sure the regrets are rather small. Many of you, like me, have already been down this road a number of times. I am just looking for an extra bump of energy for any of the participants when reserves have been exhausted.
Again, my thanks for whatever you can offer.
.Long story short....
A friend of almost 50 years AND a pilgrim like the rest of us (though not a Forum member) called me the other night to request that I help him settle into hospice care in a few days time.
What else can you say but "Sure, it would be an honor and a privilege."
I humbly request the spiritual assistance of whatever type the community here can offer. He, his family, and I could use the support. I thank you in advance for your help!
Yeah...this is a pretty "heavy" post and potentially exploitative of emotions. No "pity party" is required, I assure you! I am just looking to harness some of the very positive energy so often evident here.
I will try to negate the "heaviness" of the post with a couple humorous points from our Caminos together.
1) My friend got the calling to walk the Camino a few years after being diagnosed with an early dementia. His lovely bride was at wits end as to how to satisfy the call. Knowing that I had already been, she called for suggestions. "Well, heck, I'll take him!"
A few months later on the Camino, I come out from laundry duties (Santo Domingo) to find him talking to a table of folks about his dementia and the attendant challenges and why he has a sidekick. (Yeah, I groaned.)
But you know how that 'pilgrim telegraph' works, right? Two nights later, a very nice young lady tells me over a menu that she is sorry for my diagnosis and what a great friend I have. Color me confused for a moment... "Oh", I say, "he is the one with dementia...I am just 'on the spectrum' as they say as well as a committed introvert."
"Huh", says she, "he just seems so normal compared to you!" (Ouch!)
2) Villefranca del Bierzo at the Hotel Mendez (no albergue beds available) - we go down to dinner in their nice resto. A couple of Italian ladies we had met earlier asked if they could join us. "Sure!"
At this time, my friend had been married for 32 years and I for 36. While settling into dessert, one of the ladies asked how we chose our wedding rings. My friend relates how he and his bride got theirs and then I relate my story. Confusion appears on their faces - "Uh, hold on...we heard you were a gay couple from 'un-named country!'"
Even with dementia, my buddy doesn't miss a beat - - "Why did you think we were from THAT country?" - - and we all broke up. (Maybe you had to be there.)
So, yeah, there's stress and sorrow...but I am pretty sure the regrets are rather small. Many of you, like me, have already been down this road a number of times. I am just looking for an extra bump of energy for any of the participants when reserves have been exhausted.
Again, my thanks for whatever you can offer.
B
I am not going down the so sorry street on this one .Yes I am sorry. The tears have stopped now I can do some bloody typing. YOU have been chosen to help this person it is going to be a big job but then you are a big boy now. Do a good job and the person that gave you this job will remember you. Since walking three camino's I feel we are all one large family we all earn't this right the minuet we embarked on our first day of the walk.Long story short....
A friend of almost 50 years AND a pilgrim like the rest of us (though not a Forum member) called me the other night to request that I help him settle into hospice care in a few days time.
What else can you say but "Sure, it would be an honor and a privilege."
I humbly request the spiritual assistance of whatever type the community here can offer. He, his family, and I could use the support. I thank you in advance for your help!
Yeah...this is a pretty "heavy" post and potentially exploitative of emotions. No "pity party" is required, I assure you! I am just looking to harness some of the very positive energy so often evident here.
I will try to negate the "heaviness" of the post with a couple humorous points from our Caminos together.
1) My friend got the calling to walk the Camino a few years after being diagnosed with an early dementia. His lovely bride was at wits end as to how to satisfy the call. Knowing that I had already been, she called for suggestions. "Well, heck, I'll take him!"
A few months later on the Camino, I come out from laundry duties (Santo Domingo) to find him talking to a table of folks about his dementia and the attendant challenges and why he has a sidekick. (Yeah, I groaned.)
But you know how that 'pilgrim telegraph' works, right? Two nights later, a very nice young lady tells me over a menu that she is sorry for my diagnosis and what a great friend I have. Color me confused for a moment... "Oh", I say, "he is the one with dementia...I am just 'on the spectrum' as they say as well as a committed introvert."
"Huh", says she, "he just seems so normal compared to you!" (Ouch!)
2) Villefranca del Bierzo at the Hotel Mendez (no albergue beds available) - we go down to dinner in their nice resto. A couple of Italian ladies we had met earlier asked if they could join us. "Sure!"
At this time, my friend had been married for 32 years and I for 36. While settling into dessert, one of the ladies asked how we chose our wedding rings. My friend relates how he and his bride got theirs and then I relate my story. Confusion appears on their faces - "Uh, hold on...we heard you were a gay couple from 'un-named country!'"
Even with dementia, my buddy doesn't miss a beat - - "Why did you think we were from THAT country?" - - and we all broke up. (Maybe you had to be there.)
So, yeah, there's stress and sorrow...but I am pretty sure the regrets are rather small. Many of you, like me, have already been down this road a number of times. I am just looking for an extra bump of energy for any of the participants when reserves have been exhausted.
Again, my thanks for whatever you can offer.
B
Contact Pilgrim House in Santiago they can help you.Long story short....
A friend of almost 50 years AND a pilgrim like the rest of us (though not a Forum member) called me the other night to request that I help him settle into hospice care in a few days time.
What else can you say but "Sure, it would be an honor and a privilege."
I humbly request the spiritual assistance of whatever type the community here can offer. He, his family, and I could use the support. I thank you in advance for your help!
Yeah...this is a pretty "heavy" post and potentially exploitative of emotions. No "pity party" is required, I assure you! I am just looking to harness some of the very positive energy so often evident here.
I will try to negate the "heaviness" of the post with a couple humorous points from our Caminos together.
1) My friend got the calling to walk the Camino a few years after being diagnosed with an early dementia. His lovely bride was at wits end as to how to satisfy the call. Knowing that I had already been, she called for suggestions. "Well, heck, I'll take him!"
A few months later on the Camino, I come out from laundry duties (Santo Domingo) to find him talking to a table of folks about his dementia and the attendant challenges and why he has a sidekick. (Yeah, I groaned.)
But you know how that 'pilgrim telegraph' works, right? Two nights later, a very nice young lady tells me over a menu that she is sorry for my diagnosis and what a great friend I have. Color me confused for a moment... "Oh", I say, "he is the one with dementia...I am just 'on the spectrum' as they say as well as a committed introvert."
"Huh", says she, "he just seems so normal compared to you!" (Ouch!)
2) Villefranca del Bierzo at the Hotel Mendez (no albergue beds available) - we go down to dinner in their nice resto. A couple of Italian ladies we had met earlier asked if they could join us. "Sure!"
At this time, my friend had been married for 32 years and I for 36. While settling into dessert, one of the ladies asked how we chose our wedding rings. My friend relates how he and his bride got theirs and then I relate my story. Confusion appears on their faces - "Uh, hold on...we heard you were a gay couple from 'un-named country!'"
Even with dementia, my buddy doesn't miss a beat - - "Why did you think we were from THAT country?" - - and we all broke up. (Maybe you had to be there.)
So, yeah, there's stress and sorrow...but I am pretty sure the regrets are rather small. Many of you, like me, have already been down this road a number of times. I am just looking for an extra bump of energy for any of the participants when reserves have been exhausted.
Again, my thanks for whatever you can offer.
B
Long story short....
A friend of almost 50 years AND a pilgrim like the rest of us (though not a Forum member) called me the other night to request that I help him settle into hospice care in a few days time.
What else can you say but "Sure, it would be an honor and a privilege."
I humbly request the spiritual assistance of whatever type the community here can offer. He, his family, and I could use the support. I thank you in advance for your help!
Yeah...this is a pretty "heavy" post and potentially exploitative of emotions. No "pity party" is required, I assure you! I am just looking to harness some of the very positive energy so often evident here.
I will try to negate the "heaviness" of the post with a couple humorous points from our Caminos together.
1) My friend got the calling to walk the Camino a few years after being diagnosed with an early dementia. His lovely bride was at wits end as to how to satisfy the call. Knowing that I had already been, she called for suggestions. "Well, heck, I'll take him!"
A few months later on the Camino, I come out from laundry duties (Santo Domingo) to find him talking to a table of folks about his dementia and the attendant challenges and why he has a sidekick. (Yeah, I groaned.)
But you know how that 'pilgrim telegraph' works, right? Two nights later, a very nice young lady tells me over a menu that she is sorry for my diagnosis and what a great friend I have. Color me confused for a moment... "Oh", I say, "he is the one with dementia...I am just 'on the spectrum' as they say as well as a committed introvert."
"Huh", says she, "he just seems so normal compared to you!" (Ouch!)
2) Villefranca del Bierzo at the Hotel Mendez (no albergue beds available) - we go down to dinner in their nice resto. A couple of Italian ladies we had met earlier asked if they could join us. "Sure!"
At this time, my friend had been married for 32 years and I for 36. While settling into dessert, one of the ladies asked how we chose our wedding rings. My friend relates how he and his bride got theirs and then I relate my story. Confusion appears on their faces - "Uh, hold on...we heard you were a gay couple from 'un-named country!'"
Even with dementia, my buddy doesn't miss a beat - - "Why did you think we were from THAT country?" - - and we all broke up. (Maybe you had to be there.)
So, yeah, there's stress and sorrow...but I am pretty sure the regrets are rather small. Many of you, like me, have already been down this road a number of times. I am just looking for an extra bump of energy for any of the participants when reserves have been exhausted.
Again, my thanks for whatever you can offer.
B
Fabulous post bless youAmazing post and as you so eloquently pointed out, an amazing privilege and I think what your doing is exactly what many of us say that we would or could do but when tested Im not so sure so hats off to you Pilgrim. Recently I've been on my own journey with my Mother who has had no less than three separate occasions whereby a priest had offered her last rights and only recently has been battling and winning against cancer. On my Camino last year I experienced my own spiritual awakening and on the mount of forgiveness my sister walked with me and towards the end appeared to me in the form of a purple fabric. My sister Sinead died as a baby, I never got to meet her but my faith in man-made religion has almost departed but my faith in a spiritual dimension made up of loved ones who have passed over has entered my life. I don't prescribe to any particular religion although brought up as a Roman Catholic I now believe that there is a higher level of intelligence but I don't pretend to put a label on it. My sister and all those family and friends who have passed over or on I prefer to think that they all guide, guard and love me. I didn't lose a sister, I gained a guardian angel. I begin my walk again on Saturday and you, your friend and his family will be in my intentions. I recently downloaded a book that might be of interest to you both. @simply B stay positive, simply B-ing there is enough
A few months later on the Camino, I come out from laundry duties (Santo Domingo) to find him talking to a table of folks about his dementia and the attendant challenges and why he has a sidekick. (Yeah, I groaned.)
Long story short....
A friend of almost 50 years AND a pilgrim like the rest of us (though not a Forum member) called me the other night to request that I help him settle into hospice care in a few days time.
What else can you say but "Sure, it would be an honor and a privilege."
I humbly request the spiritual assistance of whatever type the community here can offer. He, his family, and I could use the support. I thank you in advance for your help!
Yeah...this is a pretty "heavy" post and potentially exploitative of emotions. No "pity party" is required, I assure you! I am just looking to harness some of the very positive energy so often evident here.
I will try to negate the "heaviness" of the post with a couple humorous points from our Caminos together.
1) My friend got the calling to walk the Camino a few years after being diagnosed with an early dementia. His lovely bride was at wits end as to how to satisfy the call. Knowing that I had already been, she called for suggestions. "Well, heck, I'll take him!"
A few months later on the Camino, I come out from laundry duties (Santo Domingo) to find him talking to a table of folks about his dementia and the attendant challenges and why he has a sidekick. (Yeah, I groaned.)
But you know how that 'pilgrim telegraph' works, right? Two nights later, a very nice young lady tells me over a menu that she is sorry for my diagnosis and what a great friend I have. Color me confused for a moment... "Oh", I say, "he is the one with dementia...I am just 'on the spectrum' as they say as well as a committed introvert."
"Huh", says she, "he just seems so normal compared to you!" (Ouch!)
2) Villefranca del Bierzo at the Hotel Mendez (no albergue beds available) - we go down to dinner in their nice resto. A couple of Italian ladies we had met earlier asked if they could join us. "Sure!"
At this time, my friend had been married for 32 years and I for 36. While settling into dessert, one of the ladies asked how we chose our wedding rings. My friend relates how he and his bride got theirs and then I relate my story. Confusion appears on their faces - "Uh, hold on...we heard you were a gay couple from 'un-named country!'"
Even with dementia, my buddy doesn't miss a beat - - "Why did you think we were from THAT country?" - - and we all broke up. (Maybe you had to be there.)
So, yeah, there's stress and sorrow...but I am pretty sure the regrets are rather small. Many of you, like me, have already been down this road a number of times. I am just looking for an extra bump of energy for any of the participants when reserves have been exhausted.
Again, my thanks for whatever you can offer.
B
Long story short....
A friend of almost 50 years AND a pilgrim like the rest of us (though not a Forum member) called me the other night to request that I help him settle into hospice care in a few days time.
What else can you say but "Sure, it would be an honor and a privilege."
I humbly request the spiritual assistance of whatever type the community here can offer. He, his family, and I could use the support. I thank you in advance for your help!
Yeah...this is a pretty "heavy" post and potentially exploitative of emotions. No "pity party" is required, I assure you! I am just looking to harness some of the very positive energy so often evident here.
I will try to negate the "heaviness" of the post with a couple humorous points from our Caminos together.
1) My friend got the calling to walk the Camino a few years after being diagnosed with an early dementia. His lovely bride was at wits end as to how to satisfy the call. Knowing that I had already been, she called for suggestions. "Well, heck, I'll take him!"
A few months later on the Camino, I come out from laundry duties (Santo Domingo) to find him talking to a table of folks about his dementia and the attendant challenges and why he has a sidekick. (Yeah, I groaned.)
But you know how that 'pilgrim telegraph' works, right? Two nights later, a very nice young lady tells me over a menu that she is sorry for my diagnosis and what a great friend I have. Color me confused for a moment... "Oh", I say, "he is the one with dementia...I am just 'on the spectrum' as they say as well as a committed introvert."
"Huh", says she, "he just seems so normal compared to you!" (Ouch!)
2) Villefranca del Bierzo at the Hotel Mendez (no albergue beds available) - we go down to dinner in their nice resto. A couple of Italian ladies we had met earlier asked if they could join us. "Sure!"
At this time, my friend had been married for 32 years and I for 36. While settling into dessert, one of the ladies asked how we chose our wedding rings. My friend relates how he and his bride got theirs and then I relate my story. Confusion appears on their faces - "Uh, hold on...we heard you were a gay couple from 'un-named country!'"
Even with dementia, my buddy doesn't miss a beat - - "Why did you think we were from THAT country?" - - and we all broke up. (Maybe you had to be there.)
So, yeah, there's stress and sorrow...but I am pretty sure the regrets are rather small. Many of you, like me, have already been down this road a number of times. I am just looking for an extra bump of energy for any of the participants when reserves have been exhausted.
Again, my thanks for whatever you can offer.
B
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I humbly request the spiritual assistance of whatever type the community here can offer. He, his family, and I could use the support. I thank you in advance for your help!
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I am more than happy to add him, his family, you and all your friends to our prayer diary here in Santiago: http://egeria.house/let-us-pray-for-you/
BC SY
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