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i will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
Don't worry. You will be surrounded by like minded - and some wildly unlike minded, which is also interesting - pilgrims you can share this experience with. You will be busy walking, talking, eating, laughing, bonding as much or as little as you want to. I used to call home every morning to say hi and tell him my plan for the day, and in the evening to say I was okay and where I was. Though it was nice to talk to him every day I didn't feel I needed to - I was happy to be in the moment, alone or with others. You are used to doing things on your own, and this is what you wanted to do, so you'll be fine. Maybe the fear is more about the distance, physical and mental, you are putting between you and him. Could it be you are more worried about what will happen when you come home, what you will come home to? Try not to let that become a problem. You still don't know who you will be when you go home, what you will want then. Top tip: If you feel like crying, the eucalyptus woods are just the place for it.
Buen Camino and a big hug,
Linda
i will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
HI,i will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
so exciting.... I know right, even though you are away, wifi keeps you connected to everyone. That is so great. .. how many hours do you walk each day? at teh moment I am training and i walk 18 klm ... finding that fine even after I finish my day at work. I need to now work in a pair of walking boots . That is teh next on my listI am walking the Camino alone right now. I have felt completely secure so far. Other pilgrims you befriend along the way will look out for you too. I am blogging whenever I have wifi so my children can keep up. I understand your trepidation, but be brave - your Camino experience will give you strength.
Hi there .... like Davi will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
Hi there .... try not to be afraid. I'm going at the same time as you and also starting to get a bit jittery .... but gain strength from the support of these wonderful forum members. They know what they're talking about. I'm sure you will be just fine .... there are lots of us in the same boat and we can support each other. I'll be looking out for you. Trish xxi will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
They must have copied you for the movie "The Way"!I'm a grumpy, out of shape, chain-smoking jerk who speaks no Spanish or any other languages besides English. And I made friends and had a great time. You'll be fine.
Before your post, I just wish I had your strength to put it out there for all and sundry to see. At present I only have 3 reasons to live, my daughter, my mother (84) and my sister. My wedding anniversary present was to be told to leave the house, I have never questioned my wife's judgement, as I only had to see who she married, so that was that after 20 years.i will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
You are a very good man.You can and will do it and you will have the best time of your life, promise!
You hace guts and you will make it. Buen Camino and stay tough!I have booked tickets, renewed passports, bought a truckload of gear (which at least half will be left at home), also sold anything of value to fund my walk. I leave in 14 days for Le Puy en Velay and have given myself 90 days to get to SdC via Finnestaire and Muxia. So, here I go, a weak arm, dodgy knees and hips, no French or Spanish skills, just a 1974 Berlitz European phrase book and a very limited budget. I am (in the words of the old song) leaving my happy (?) home to go on the road to find out. The future can take care of its self, as it has done since time began. So, Laelia2, you go girl, go and do it, enjoy it, no one else can do it for you. At the end of the day, we are all only here for a short time, so, it may as well be a good time. Buen Camino, Richard
Such a special response David.....Your words definitely 'speak to me also'.....smiles.Of course you feel alone, you are suffering loss - how else could it be? But here is the thing ... do you not realise how courageous you are? You have openly posted on here a glimpse of your pain .. this suggests that you are honest, open, brave.
What you are going through, what you are so new to, is horrid, of course it is, but it is the initial part of a process .. it feels like this now, things happen, then it feels better later .. a process.
In September, when you stand at the foot of the Pyrenees, all nervous and loaded up and wondering what on earth happens next you will be ready. You will meet new people, and some may become life-long friends. If you have difficulties other pilgrims will help you - you will not be alone. Just remember to allow the transfer to be in both directions, be on the aware for pilgrims who may need your help, even if it is a gentle smile.
All is well, all is well.
Buen Camino!!!!
Before your post, I just wish I had your strength to put it out there for all and sundry to see. At present I only have 3 reasons to live, my daughter, my mother (84) and my sister. My wedding anniversary present was to be told to leave the house, I have never questioned my wife's judgement, as I only had to see who she married, so that was that after 20 years. Friends, I don't have. Friends are people who like you in spite of yourself. Acquaintances, I have many. None of which offer any support what so ever even to ask RUOK? They, quite understandably, have their own trials and tribulations to deal with, excess baggage is not required. There is no extended family to call on for support. We migrated from England to Australia in 1957, so I have grown up relatively alone. (pun intended). I have been unemployed since February 2013 with a detached biceps tendon. Unable to do the work I had been doing and at almost 60 with no formal education qualifications, alternative employment is difficult to source. Age discrimination doesn't exist, apparently it's all in my head! Now my car valued at $3000 required maintenance to cost in excess of $5000. On top of all this I have been diagnosed with severe clinical depression, and have been hospitalised 3 times in 6 months. BUT, I can still see the beauty of sun rise and set, appreciate the magnificence of a 20 mile surf beach with no buildings, the antiquity of old rainforest, the odours and textures of all that I have just mentioned. Walking has always been a source of solace for me. So on my way home from hospital one morning I stopped at a travel agent to see about a walking holiday, 2 glossy brochures were obtained. The prices to me were exorbitant, but the Camino was mentioned. On television that night was a show "Bare Faced Cheek", the Camino was mentioned. The next night, without any mention of Camino to my landlady, she came home with 3 videos, "The Way" was one of them. Ever since, other "signs" kept showing. Whilst out walking on the local hills one Saturday I bumped into an informal group of people. Not a club, so no money changes hands. They walk every Saturday, to keep fit and train for national & international events. Lo and behold, 3 of them have done different sections of the Camino. Now not being religious, I began to reflect on the subtle as a sledgehammer signs that were bombarding me, who or what was / is behind all of this? So, I have booked tickets, renewed passports, bought a truckload of gear (which at least half will be left at home), also sold anything of value to fund my walk. I leave in 14 days for Le Puy en Velay and have given myself 90 days to get to SdC via Finnestaire and Muxia. So, here I go, a weak arm, dodgy knees and hips, no French or Spanish skills, just a 1974 Berlitz European phrase book and a very limited budget. I am (in the words of the old song) leaving my happy (?) home to go on the road to find out. The future can take care of its self, as it has done since time began. So, Laelia2, you go girl, go and do it, enjoy it, no one else can do it for you. At the end of the day, we are all only here for a short time, so, it may as well be a good time. Buen Camino, Richard
thank you, everyone, for your kind responses. what compelled you all to respond so kindly to a small request from a stranger? wonderful people walk the camino, obviously. thank you again.
thank you, everyone, for your kind responses. what compelled you all to respond so kindly to a small request from a stranger? wonderful people walk the camino, obviously. thank you again.
absolutely. it brings me to tears!ahh. what you have found here Laelia, is a cross section of the type of good people you will meet on your Camino - encouraging isn't it
So, I have booked tickets, renewed passports, bought a truckload of gear (which at least half will be left at home), also sold anything of value to fund my walk. I leave in 14 days for Le Puy en Velay and have given myself 90 days to get to SdC via Finnestaire and Muxia. So, here I go, a weak arm, dodgy knees and hips, no French or Spanish skills, just a 1974 Berlitz European phrase book and a very limited budget. I am (in the words of the old song) leaving my happy (?) home to go on the road to find out. Richard
Many thanks to all for the kind words. My intention though, was to give Laelia2 support, (after all it was her post, not mine) it's just that the words just kept on coming. Kanga, I would love to catch up, maybe when I return to Oz. Mey the moose (mouse) ne're lea' yer girnal (grainstore) wi the tear drap in its eye.Dear Richard,
A very moving and sensitive post. Go well. I hope the Camino gives to you in abundance. I wish you were in Sydney 'cause I'd sure like to be your friend!
Love your quote at the end of this post Richard.Many thanks to all for the kind words. My intention though, was to give Laelia2 support, (after all it was her post, not mine) it's just that the words just kept on coming. Kanga, I would love to catch up, maybe when I return to Oz. Mey the moose (mouse) ne're lea' yer girnal (grainstore) wi the tear drap in its eye.
i will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
i will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
Don't worry, you will have lots of nice friendly people keeping you company on your way. Everybody will support you and i garanty you, you will have the time of your live, Just trust the camino and have faith in yourself. BUEN CAMINO!!!i will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
i will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
Laelia2, I am sorry for your current situation. I hope you find some comfort and peace. You and I will be traveling at the same time. I hope to meet you on the Way. We can encourage one another. Aren't the people on this forum amazing? What compelled them? I imagine goodness, kindness, and huge, open, compassionate hearts. Won't we be fortunate to encounter the same on our journeys? I am truly humbled.thank you, everyone, for your kind responses. what compelled you all to respond so kindly to a small request from a stranger? wonderful people walk the camino, obviously. thank you again.
I am walking the Camino alone right now. I have felt completely secure so far. Other pilgrims you befriend along the way will look out for you too. I am blogging whenever I have wifi so my children can keep up. I understand your trepidation, but be brave - your Camino experience will give you strength.
i will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
hello falcon - sorry to read about the news of your separation from your husband - I walked the southern camino last June from Malaga alone - It is a special feeling when you do this alone - be brave - you will be the stronger!!! Jimi will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
Trust me there are many many people walking the Camino solo. Some hook up in 2 's and 3's-some hook up in the alberques. You are never alone and everyone says Buen Camino en route-so see it as a great opportunity!!!Folk regularly Skype home and share their tales over dinner/coffee. You will be fine!!!Cecilia xi will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
i will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
Adhemar78,I will also be walking the Camino alone this September and October. My friends have been very supportive, but quite a few of them presumed that I would be doing it with a group of people, and they seemed surprised when it was made clear to them that I would be doing it alone. I can understand their surprise, as I know that I have always been the sort of person who has allowed fear to rule my decisions and actions in life. There is no real reason I can pinpoint for why I am like this, but what I do know is that I do not want to be scared anymore. It is for this reason that I want to do the Camino alone; I think it will be good for me to do it alone.
I expect when I get to St Jean Pied de Port that I will be very excited, but I also know that I will be very nervous. I know in my bones, however, that I can do this, and it's a rare thing for me to have that sort of confidence. I have absolutely no doubt that you can do it too. You are stronger than you know.
Walking the Camino will quickly help put things in perspective. I don't think we walk the Camino to feel safe, though it is. Whether we look for it or not, it just seems to give us answers and revelations whether we welcome them or not.i will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
Laelia - a break-up of a marriage/relationship is a painful event. As you have seen (from above) that the Camino will, in part, envelop you with "love". I do not know where you live, but maybe there is a Camino group in your area and maybe you will find someone locally who is walking around the same time. Even if you are not walking in parallel it might be good to have some one you know nearby. Again as others have said - in today's communication age with wifi you will be able to keep in contact with family and friends most days (if you wish). Buen Camino (and a big hug).thank you, everyone, for your kind responses. what compelled you all to respond so kindly to a small request from a stranger? wonderful people walk the camino, obviously. thank you again.
Adhemar78,
If I didn't know better, I would have thought I had written your post.Most people I meet also assume that when I say I am going alone what I really mean is going with a group. But then, they don't know the nature of the Camino. I wonder if you and I will cross paths. I arrive at SJPP on the evening of the 11th of September. I am taking a rest day and will leave for Orisson on the 13th. How about you?
Buen Camino!
Mary
OP April 2014, so has she come back to respond to her experience about her initial fears?i will be starting my camino from sjpdp on sept 3rd, alone. this hadn't been a concern at all, as i do lots of things by myself and have for a long time. but yesterday i separated from my husband, and out of the blue, the thought of not having him home to talk to while on the way made me feel afraid to go. no safety net, i guess...
i could use a good word or two.
Godspeed, @truthseeker - may you walk in peace. Please know you are not alone along the way: many others on the Camino carry the heavy burdens of loss. Ultreia and buen camino!Your post and the reactions of fellow pilgrims move me to tears. I will be walking my first Camino alone as well, starting in mid September. I will spend a full day in SJPP before starting walking, probably to get over jet lag. My walk is partially to find myself, and to re-connect with God, after the death of my son.
She started walking it in September 2014...hope she's finished by now. lolYour post and the reactions of fellow pilgrims move me to tears. I will be walking my first Camino alone as well, starting in mid September. I will spend a full day in SJPP before starting walking, probably to get over jet lag. My walk is partially to find myself, and to re-connect with God, after the death of my son. Maybe I will encounter you. Buen camino.
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