No Drama Forum

[MichaelB10398]

This forum is one of the great assets for those seeking to walk the Way of St. James. Those who frequent the site come from all walks of life, every socioeconomic position, and every religion and no religious leanings whatsoever. The reality is that the Camino seems to call to all regardless of where they are from, what they do, and more importantly, the call comes without judgment.

Under this giant umbrella which we find ourselves there are a few things for each of us to remember:

1. The Forum is not a personal counselor or a place to work out one's personal issues. Keep those things to yourself and share them only face-to-face or with close friends or trained professional.
2. People come and people go on Camino and the Forum. It is always good to say hello and it really is not necessary to notify everyone that you are leaving. Once the Camino calls to you it is virtually impossible to be off the Camino. There is no goodbye. The object is to keep walking and enjoy the present.
3. If you have a question about the Camino feel free to ask it. We cover everything from what to do when the urge strikes you in the middle of nowhere to how much weight to carry in your pack to where to find a good meal. Asking questions, all questions is great.
4. Don't take anything personal here. We are each human and none of us is an enlightened individual. Sometimes we have bad days and we snap at people; on our good days some of us will speak as with the voice of an angel. Most of the time, we are just neighbors exchanging ideas and solutions that have worked for us on Camino. Regardless of what is said; it is not personal - don't be offended. Learn to ignore that which strikes a bad chord and embrace that which inspires you.
5. The last piece of advice is to remember this is not a place for Drama of any kind. Keep that behind closed doors. In fact, don't even share it with your best friend(s).

Come to the Forum, ask, share, rejoice, and enjoy each other.

 

[Laliibeans]

The Forum is not a personal counselor or a place to work out one's personal issues. Keep those things to yourself and share them only face-to-face or with close friends or trained professional.
The last piece of advice is to remember this is not a place for Drama of any kind. Keep that behind closed doors. In fact, don't even share it with your best friend(s).

Is this really necessary? It certainly doesn't sound very personable, or charitable.
For starters, plenty of people here post their thoughts and revelations about the Camino or their reasons for going, so are you saying these should all be kept to ones self or just the unhappy ones? If so, we'd miss a lot of the joy of other peoples experiences and also a lot of the human connection which drives us to seek the benefits of pilgrimage.
I'm personally more than happy for people to open up about personal issues and ask for advice because I know that it is often the safest way people feel they can do so: anonymously.

Secondly, your request that people bottle everything up is just selfish, especially telling them not to mention it to their best friend. Who are you to tell people what they can and can't talk about in their own lives?
If you don't want drama, either don't participate in inflaming situations or don't read the thread.

I would like to know why you have posted these fairly heartless rules as they don't benefit anyone. Everyone can read the forum guidelines and rules and make their own decisions based on that. There is no need to be dictating your own disinterest in people's concerns. Further, I've barely seen drama on this forum at it's most busy period, so what sparked this crusade exactly?

 

[dalston999]

Agree with previous post.
Also, Regarding point 3 above, please check if your question has been asked before. There are multiple answers on footwear, likely weather, etc.etc

 

[MichaelB10398]

Yep, missed the point entirely. I am not talking about sharing feelings or thoughts.

Question: do you know what Drama looks like? Do you think anything you said relates to creating drama? Let's back up just a bit and think what drama looks like in your own life, in everyone's life? That is the drama that really is not needed on this Forum. I have seen a couple that I have enjoyed for a long time leave because of drama - their statement regarded bad feelings and comments from others - and they wrote a note telling us so. Then today I read another post about another member that is leaving because of similar things.

I find telling others one is leaving is a bit of a play for drama. I may have over-reacted by writing the thread, but I personally would like to keep all drama to a minimum. I have been around for a little while and I try to write posts that have meaning. This is the first thread that I have ever created, I think, in the over four years I have participated on the Forum.

The drama I am addressing is the bad feelings between members and the expression of such on the forum. I am glad that you think that the rules are enough; I wish that were the case. When I did a search I did not find a thread that addressed this specific topic.

Lallii, your response is just the type of response that invites people to leave. For today, you get that big gonzo prize for creating exactly what I was talking about. Let's shut this down before it goes any further.

 

[Susannafromsweden]

Please note, this thread is now closed.
Feel free to continue the discussion in private conversations.
Thank you
Susanna/Mod.